Fidelity
Imagine if marriage were like a passport or a driver’s license; every five or 10 years, you have to fill in paperwork to renew it, or you can choose to walk away, no questions asked.
This ingenious idea was raised at my book-club meeting, although it bore no relevance to the novel we were discussing.
“Marriages wouldn’t slide into such a state of disrepair if you had to recommit to them once a decade,” said a friend in a diversionary tactic (like me, she hadn’t finished the book).
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Is it possible to write a column questioning the value of monogamy without having your head shaved and being dragged to a public stoning hosted by right wing columnists? Guess I’m about to find out.
In the wake of the Della Bosca fiasco I’ve been thinking a lot about why we’re so obsessed with sexual fidelity.
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From a rational point of view it’s clearly ridiculous to stake our life partnerships on something as unpredictable and unbiddable
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FF says:
I have a very simple agreement with my partner. We’ve been together for almost a decade now, since we met in high school and have only been apart for about 1/2 a year involuntarily (he was deported) - it felt like a year or two to the both of us… Read more »
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Dan says:
Observa, you still haven’t answered the question of why you would mention Warne. He was a bowler, and I have no desire to ask any ‘real’ women as his affairs are nobody’s business. If you’re going to judge a sportsman based on his private life, it says much more about… Read more »
Do you remember the choose your own ending tales of your childhood? Well, I hope so, because this is a choose-your-own beginning kind of opinion piece, and trust me, no one’s going to choose the beginning that it is meant to go with it.
Beginning one would start with “My good friend’s boyfriend has not gotten laid in four weeks” and everyone would feel sorry for him. But they’d tell him to hang in there and go with it, because four weeks is not so long and maybe there’s a dry spell hovering over the relationship that a little holiday in the Hunter couldn’t fix.
Suppose this article opened with beginning two, where I’d say “My good friend’s boyfriend has not gotten laid in four months”, and everyone would be horrified and encourage him to leave, or go elsewhere for that physical part of life that everyone is entitled to but he is clearly lacking.
But beginning number three goes against all modern social norms and it’s the one I’m going with:
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zoe says:
ChelseaLee I agree. My husband and I were both virgins when we got married, 8 years ago, and our sex life gets better even after having kids. I’d much rather start low then you can only improve, I don’t think many couples that have been with many partners could say… Read more »
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Mr Subramanian says:
The rest of my earlier comment seems to have been lost: “Nice to hear from you again, Sarah. It seems clear that your own boyfriend / fiance / husband is (a) going to have a high mark to live up to! and (b) is (going to be) one fortunate guy… Read more »
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