http://www.thepunch.com.au/author-bios/jeanne-safer/ US-based psychologist and author of ‘Forgiving and Not Forgiving’. en Copyright 2013 The Punch penberthyd@newsltd.com.au penberthyd@newsltd.com.au Thu, 14 Mar 2013 19:00:10 +0000 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 19:00:10 +0000 Politics, opinion, world news, sports news, latest news, views, Barack Obama, Kevin Rudd, Julia Gillard, Nathan Rees, Malcolm Turnbull, Peter Garrett, Barnaby Joyce, Australian, federal politics, opinion polls, election, The Punch, thepunch, punch ExpressionEngine 1.6.7 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss 15 http://www.thepunch.com.au/images/punch-logo-rss.png http://www.thepunch.com.au/ 144 70 Politics, political opinion, world news, sports news and the latest news and views updated live, daily on The Punch - Australia's best conversation. Search The Punch keywords http://www.thepunch.com.au/search/ http://www.thepunch.com.au/articles/Sometimes-its-perfectly-ok-not-to-forgive/ My best friend stopped talking to me, and never told me why. We’d been inseparable for twenty years. I dedicated a book to her, and I had just nursed her through a devastating separation. I haven’t forgiven her yet, and don’t intend to try. My goals were more modest: to hurt less, to retain the precious memories of our relationship, and not to have to cross the street when I see her walking toward me. Contrary to popular opinion, and what most religions, therapists and Twelve-step programs preach, forgiveness is not the only route to peace and “closure” but there is no one-size-fits-all solution to crimes of the heart. feedback@thepunch.com.au (Jeanne Safer) Article http://www.thepunch.com.au/articles/Sometimes-its-perfectly-ok-not-to-forgive/#comments http://www.thepunch.com.au/articles/Sometimes-its-perfectly-ok-not-to-forgive/#item9039 Mon, 23 Jul 2012 19:50:55 +0000 Jeanne Safer | Author bios | The Punch