THERE should be no debate over media fundamentals when it comes to the John Della Bosca story, which was broken by The Daily Telegraph on Tuesday this week.

Kate Neill: Who's laughing now?

Mr Della Bosca is a public figure and when his private life and the performance of his public offices come into conflict, that is indubitably a matter of public interest, so the newspaper’s editor, Garry Linnell was more than “at liberty” to publish the story – morally and ethically, he had no choice. His inescapable duty was to publish the story for his readers’ legitimate information.

And maybe along the same lines, Mr Della Bosca felt he had no option other than to resign as a minister. While he dismissed claims his relationship with 26-year-old “Kate” had affected his work, there could be no doubt the public revelation of his affair would act as an almighty distraction from his ministerial responsibility. So, he had to go. Probably. Maybe. How long he wanders the wilderness remains to be seen.

But here’s another question: which is why did “Kate” - or “Harmony”, or whomever she prefers to known - get to keep her anonymity, albeit briefly, when poor old Della was been left dangling in the breeze, his privacy bared for all to see, for all to jeer and sneer at?

Okay, you can’t have a story about a State Government minister’s extramarital affair without identifying the guilty party – but why is one of the participants more guilty than the other? What - did “Kate” get forced into the predicament in which she finds herself? Did she not know who Mr Della Bosca was? Did she not know he was married? Was she a victim of any illegality? The answer to all of the above would appear to be an unequivocal “no”, so the question surely arises: What motivated her to make the unedifying details of tryst public in the first place? And having been kissed, and having told, how is it she remains unidentified. 

Now, “Kate’s” desire to remain anonymous was probably always going to prove a pretty forlorn hope. Indeed, by as early as Wednesday evening - barely 36 hours after the story broke – she had been revealed as Kate Neill, a 26-year-old occasional stand-up comedienne, whose career highlights include at least one appearance with the Victorian comedy duo, Flacco and the Sandman. Whose laughing now, we wonder?

But there’s a moot point here, is there not? Why was Neill allowed to set off her bomb from a position of concealment?

Now, the newspaper will argue that there is no discernible public interest in revealing Neill’s identity, and that is both right and proper.

But for all that, surely there was a moral obligation on Neill herself. By her decision to expose Mr Della Bosca’s infidelity, she cut short his political career and deprived the State - if you’re inclined to believe some of the more breathless endorsements broadcast and published since his resignation this week – of a wonderfully talented and dedicated servant of the public. Yes, well, maybe, but leave that to one side.

The point is, if Neill’s identity had remained secret, what consequences would have followed for her in the aftermath of her explosive revelation? Presumably, her closest friends and family knew of the “betrayal” she had endured and no doubt in that circle she felt – still feels - humiliated and belittled. No doubt, there have been tears in torrents. But for Mr Della Bosca, his shame is universal. And because his name is well-known, we’ll not soon forget the events which led to his downfall. Neill, on the other hand?  Presumably, she was hoping to nurse her sorrow in secret. Would that have been entirely fair?

Someone suggested to me yesterday that since Mr Della Bosca was the married one, there was a greater obligation on him to be truthful and trustworthy. Having said to Neill – on her version of events - that his marriage was broken and that he was leaving his wife, he was duty bound to do that, wasn’t he? After all, Neill had no-one else to consider, so far as we know. Wasn’t she entitled to take him at his word?  It’s a view with which many will agree.

But it’s perhaps also a pretty naïve view. For it’s not entirely unheard of,  is it, that people will say and do all sorts of extraordinary and unbelievable things under the pressure of an aching heart? Who knows, maybe Mr Della Bosca meant everything he said to Kate, only to find himself not possessed of the strength to follow though on his alleged pledges.

But all that is immaterial. On the face of it, Neill acted like “a woman scorned”, motivated - it seems - by nothing more than the old-fashioned desire to inflict pain, to exact risk-free revenge.

Well, she got her wish – for a day. And now she knows universal truth; few secrets last for long.

Give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe she knew that all along, and just wanted a day’s grace to prepare. But however you look at it, neither Mr Della Bosca nor the previously anonymous Kate Neill come out of this looking too flash, do they?

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    • Voxpop says:

      09:26am | 04/09/09

      She knew all along that she’d be outed - it may have even been a motivation for going public.  But to avoid the “she’s out to get her 15 mins of fame” she tried to sell the I want to be anonymous line - knowing full well that she just had to be patient.

      As far as what motivated her to be in this relationship - well obviously she has a penchant for older men who she thinks may get her somewhere or something.  She had a relationship with Flacco for gods sake - so we know she has form.  Obviously she didn’t get what she wanted so she set out to destroy him - certainly vindictive as well as a bit scewed up.

      And she claims he played her for a fool LOL - she’s been playing him all along.

    • Fiona says:

      09:48am | 04/09/09

      Its very easy to lob bombs from a secure position - and not particularly brave. Kate revealed her story to the DT well in advance of Tuesday’s publication - perhaps as far out as the Wednesday before, so she has plenty of time to ‘prepare’. If you’re going to play a role in bringing down a public figure, at least have the courage to stand up and take the accoldades (or blame…)

    • Mark says:

      10:25am | 04/09/09

      I loved Bob Carr’s defence of Della Bosca. if your a drugo who has gone into rehab, a bad driver who has been hurt in an accident, etc etc….. you can’t put the boot into Della Bosca. I hope Bob Carr applies the same logic to the people out there who love to drive Merc’s or BMW’s on freeways.  Are they not allowed to put the boot into Hitler. Hitler revolutionised the German industrial machine and built the autobhans.

    • wolf says:

      10:28am | 04/09/09

      I can’t see how the Tele could have published without insisting she go public.  If she were the victim of crime it would be another matter but if you want to use the media as a tool of personal vengance you should at least have the courage to make your accusations directly.
      She seems like an attractive young lady but from watching the youtube video I can’t help but think that I can see a bit of the crazy eye about her, a thought that her actions have only reinforced for me.
      I fully expect to see her ‘speak out’ again sometime soon about how everyone has been so mean to her and how she has been victimised by the media and the public.  You reap what you sow crazy eye lady…

    • Micko says:

      10:39am | 04/09/09

      I would like to know more about Kate Neill—has nobody in the media yet got a line into her life?  There may be a bit more of this story to run before it a goes cold.

    • iansand says:

      10:40am | 04/09/09

      The ethical and moral convolutions of this little article can be resolved by one simple question - why did the Telecrap publish?  Problem solved.

    • Tim says:

      10:52am | 04/09/09

      It was ridiculous in the extreme that the Telegraph agreed to allow her anonymity in the first place. If you want to throw around accusations you must be prepared to step into the spotlight.

    • Mark B says:

      10:51am | 04/09/09

      I don’t believe publishing the matter was in the public interest at all. It was a personal matter between two consenting adults, and the relationship had been terminated. The NSW Health system is probably the poorer for it becoming public and resulting in the resignation of an effective minister. The girl involved will gain a reputation which will follow her for the rest of her life; probably to her significant detriment. There are many public figures openly having extramarital affairs, and the fact that this one was publicised suggests another motive.

    • anon says:

      11:31am | 04/09/09

      where is the gossip on this women? does she not have any former friends willing to give us - the slavering public - some juicy morsel to titillate us? I demand to know more about her!

    • Liz says:

      11:58am | 04/09/09

      When you bare all, you bare all and these days it means all the unsavoury details.No-one can fool themselves it won’t be that way so what’s the agenda?

    • Nathan says:

      12:23pm | 04/09/09

      When will she be in Zoo or FHM? She seems to have a rather attractive personality.

    • Margaret says:

      12:32pm | 04/09/09

      15 mins of fame for the “charming” little sociopath…i foresee a gig on some horrendous “reality” show in her future…& yes - it takes a few years to learn some compassion,dignity & unselfishness…but we all get there in the end Kate…oh yeah & Kate…they NEVER leave their wives lol

    • Mark B says:

      12:52pm | 04/09/09

      Margaret, some do leave their wives but not many. When they do leave their wives, it often ends in tears. I tell my kids that in the great race of life you are better to ride one horse, so take your time, choose carefully, and look after your horse so it carries you through to the finishing line.

    • Simon says:

      12:55pm | 04/09/09

      This one is kind of embarrassing. The argument for publication is ‘there was a conflict between his public office and private life’, but it’s never named. The whole ‘he might have improperly waved her through security at Parliament’ line was a pathetic figleaf as anyone who’s ever walked into NSW parliament would know. A genuine ethical article would have explored the Tele’s duty to explore and verify the reasons for della missing the hospital opening, where sadly the original article tends to indicate that they’ve just parrotted the allegation of a spurned lover. The best that Ms Neill could come up with is “if he’d cheat on his missus, how could the people of NSW trust him?” Problem is, that’s the ‘every affair must be published’ line which no Australian media outlet including  the Tele has ever adopted.

      Then the question of whether Ms Neill should have outed herself gets dragged around the yard at some length, but the decision of the newspaper’s editor to use the paper to allow her to anonymously throw a bomb was “right and proper”. Sorry for asking. 

      It doesn’t do the punch much credit publishing opinion articles that purport to ask ethical questions about a story started by the Tele, but any suggestion that there could be an ethical case to answer for the Tele’s editor is airily waved aside. Save this stuff for the NewsCorp company website.

      Richard Ackland has done a decent opinion piece on the topic this morning.

    • Katrina says:

      07:05pm | 04/09/09

      This woman had sex with Della Bosca multiple times. Leave her alone people, she’s had enough. Jesus.

    • Beverley B says:

      09:24pm | 04/09/09

      I am a little bemused by this whole episode in the sorry state of NSW politics. Is there outright proof of any dereliction of duty by the ex-Minister during the time of the affair? I have heard of missed plane flights etc but how significant were any consequences. As for the outrage of
      Andrew Stoner on Stateline tonight about the misuse of Parliament House for illicit activities, isn’t it time he grew up? We are talking about two consenting adults not silly schoolkids. Hand on heart I would say many have been tempted to go down that path and many have given into temptation. A lot of us know of diallances in workplaces - why should politicians be any different? For Barry O’Farrell’s sake I hope there are no skeletons in the coalition’s closet.
      I do see some parallels between this story and the WCC controversary - two young women choosing to have affiars with powerful men - please girls think about the consequences for yourselves and maybe consider the families of the other person. Don’t be so gullible - how many of us have heard the “I am going to leave my wife/hisband for you” line?
      To be honest I hope there is no motive on behalf of the Telegraph - apart from the two individuals directly involved there are many innocents who are being hurt by the coverage.

    • Charlie says:

      10:26pm | 06/09/09

      I agree with the Tele’s decision to publish. This sort of clandestine affair is the sort of thing that often leads to attempts of extortion. Anyone involved in producing and voting on public policy must not put themselves in a position where someone can wield power over them by knowing their secrets.

      But they definitely should have revealed her identity if for no other reason than to allow a determination to be made as to her motivations for going public.

    • anon says:

      04:55pm | 07/09/09

      This girl used to date my friend a few years back.There is ALOT of dirt on her,.......Harmony is her stripper/escort name. She is full of lies and is bad news. This is her seeking 5 mintues of fame Im sure the real dirt on her will come out soon enough

    • Melinda says:

      04:14am | 10/09/09

      Stripping/escort is a legitimate business not a ‘dirty’ one. Who cares if she was in this line of work in the past? Is her work history relevant to the issue? Or are you making this point to prove shes a bad person? If so your views are ignorant and archaic. People from all walks of life have affairs, sad but true. Stop throwing stones.

    • avgjoe says:

      11:33pm | 06/11/09

      Kate should not deceive John who really loved her, but since she defected John can fall back on testosterone, how low can you go KATE?

 

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