Very few people will admit to having a crap time on holidays.

Not exactly what it looked like on the website 

Maybe it’s all the time and effort that goes into making one happen or the excruciating holiday countdowns you have with friends and colleagues before you leave or perhaps it’s the soul-destroying realisation that if “getting away from it all” doesn’t make you happy than nothing will.

Whatever the reason, no matter what happens on holidays, we’ll always say what a great time we had. And usually this is just a big fat lie.

No matter how well you plan or how much money you throw around, there is always something bad about travelling on holidays and it’s time to give some of the worst ones away:

1. Your relationship will suffer: Paul Hansford has written a terrific piece on News.com.au today about how to avoid breaking up on holidays.  Almost everyone knows someone who broke up on holidays or very soon after and it always seems to happen to those long term relationships where one party has been holding out for the baby/engagement ring/sign of commitment that the other party either fails spectacularly to deliver, or worse, calls it quits.

Platonic and family relationships aren’t immune either; travel with people you love and be willing to discover a million things about them that you’d rather not know. For example, you could realise that your best friend is actually a complete tight arse, complains a lot, expects you to make all the plans or always has that one extra bag that you end up carrying.

2. Holidays can make you depressed and or sick: Sarah Wilson touched on this back in October after spending a holiday in Bali constantly fretting about not “having enough fun”. They can also make you incredibly homesick and after a day or two you can find yourself yearning for routines or worse, thinking about work. 

You’ll probably also get sick either some weird strain of cold and flu from sleeping overnight in an aeroplane and or experience sudden and uncomfortable changes in digestion and toilet habits.

3. The lone traveller/ third wheel/hanger-on:  Odds are you’ll meet this person on the first night of your holiday while you’re kicking back in the bar. You suggest they join you for the following day’s sightseeing and the next thing you know they’re stuck to you till the end of your trip. In really unfortunate cases, just when you think you’ve lost them, they’ll turn up at your next destination too.     

The chatty, over-sharing tour guide is another example of bad travelling companions. They’re most likely to turn up on tours that take several day and will spend most of the tour talking about themselves and that “first crazy time they hit the Inca trail”.

4. You won’t actually see everything and you’ll miss really important bits: This is known to occur on the holidays you don’t plan because you don’t want to be “like everyone else’ or you want to “get off the beaten track” and usually finds you staying in a generic hotel chain because you couldn’t figure out how to hire car or work out the train ticketing system.

5. The family reunion and other awkward rendezvous: Tracing your family tree might seem enticing from the cosy and familiar environs of home but meeting up with long lost relatives and or friends of friends can go completely pear-shaped. They’re either almost always boring, way too eager to share every last moment of your holiday with you or just never turn up to meet you at the airport.

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    • Markus says:

      01:25pm | 11/11/10

      The people who fret about holidays are generally the same people that fret about everything else in their life.
      Schedule everything down to the minute and then freak out when something does not go exactly as planned.

      Personally the unexpected stuff for me has always ended up as the best part of the holiday.
      Losing your way out in the middle of nowhere only to meet a local who helps you out and you all end up drinking together laughing about how you managed to get that far out to begin with.
      A little stressful initially, but the unplanned nature of it makes for a hell of a lot more fun than a guided tour ever would.

    • Tombowler says:

      05:58pm | 11/11/10

      Sounds a little more like fantasy than reality Markus…

      In my extensive experience- travelling alone is a hard slog and getting lost is a total bitch. The ‘awesome drinking at secret local bar with locals’ stories that float around hostels are usually wishful thinking.

      Yeah you can have some crazy experiences that are very rewarding and priceless memories but at the time they are usually frightening and nervy.

      Anyway- my point is don’t try to be the wanky ‘wanderer’- It just ain’t the reality of travelling.  Nothing wrong with guided tours for those who don’t find the idea of being beaten up in a bar fight and sleeping it off outside Gare Du Nord in freezing mid-january (happened to me) appealing.

    • sneakers says:

      07:46am | 12/11/10

      Couldn’t agree more, Markus. I got off the ferry in Amsterdam from the UK with no watch, no maps, no accommodation booked and no plans and started walking. Best month of my life.

      Oh, and KH. Can’t agree about Berlin - I love that city.

    • majority says:

      01:34pm | 11/11/10

      “We’ve gone on holiday by mistake”  Withnail and I. (1987)http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0094336/quotes

      I’ve said/thought this many times on family holidays. It’s funny, in retrospect they never seem so bad.

    • Rev says:

      01:40pm | 11/11/10

      I went on a six month holiday recently.  Bought a round the world ticket and changed the flights when I felt like moving on.  Didn’t book accommodation in advance.  Didn’t stress about not seeing the Eiffel Tower while in Paris, or visit any of the attractions in Washington DC.

      And I had the best time, just relaxing, moving at my own pace, and meeting weird local characters wherever I went.  Stumbling upon hidden tapas bars and stunning vistas.  I caught up with some family and friends along the way but to be honest, walking around a strange city not knowing a soul was kinda liberating.

      Markus 1:25pm is right - it is the unplanned stuff that is memorable.  If you’re going to burn books, burn your guide book.

    • Davido says:

      02:44pm | 11/11/10

      Anyone who uses the word ‘tapas’ is a complete tosser.

    • hot tub political machine says:

      02:56pm | 11/11/10

      Davido it just what they call it. You get it free with your drinks in Spain. Whats wrong with using the word?

    • MarK says:

      03:03pm | 11/11/10

      What are we talking about? I had to look away.

      Spilled a tapas into my Carona.

      Luckily the lime wedge caught most of it before it hit the panatela I was just about to fire up.

      Oh well - back to reading Equus I guess

    • iansand says:

      03:21pm | 11/11/10

      Unless you live in Spain, where “tapas” is part of the language.  Or are in a Spanish restaurant that has tapas as part of the menu.  Or if you are talking about such a restaurant.

      Maybe you are only a tosser if you use the word “tapas” in a sentence like “Anyone who uses the word ‘tapas’ is a complete tosser.”

    • trixie melodian says:

      03:59pm | 11/11/10

      @Davido - ummm yeah, how dare someone describe the food they ate… Does the same apply for the use of the words ‘dim sum’ or ‘sauerkraut’?

    • Barcelona says:

      11:18am | 12/11/10

      @Davido - don’t go to Spain. There are “tossers” EVERYWHERE . . .

    • hot tub political machin says:

      02:12pm | 11/11/10

      Depressing piece Lucy.

      Yes I know some couples who broke up on holiday - but they were always headed in that direction anyway. Its just more time together in the end. So yeah, you will likely have an argument because you see them as much in a month as you normally would in six, but the extra goodies will be there too - its just concentrated life together. It will get you to the good and bad quicker.

    • eddie says:

      02:13pm | 11/11/10

      What about the third person a couple meets while on hols, who makes his/her move on one of the couple? Been known to occur.

    • Ian Freely says:

      02:15pm | 11/11/10

      Wow after reading this no-one would want to go on holidays; just so that Leo can have his way with the Australian workforce working longer for less.

    • me says:

      03:35pm | 11/11/10

      bahahaha!

    • MH says:

      02:27pm | 11/11/10

      What I am sick of is the holiday snobs who tell you about how they got off the beaten track in Outer Mongolia for six months, learning traditional weaving and yak-milking, because they hate doing the touristy things. Yes, I went to see the Eiffel Tower in Paris, and it was fabulous. Don’t judge me!

    • fairsfair says:

      03:09pm | 11/11/10

      Lol. How true. And judged because you went on a tour with people who knew the local area etc and (how dare you) prearranged some shit. What a no hoper you are to not arrive in a foreign city with no accommodation booked, no forward planning (to set your poor family at home at ease) wearing only the backpack on your back and looking like Angus Stone. Thats how you really immerse yourself in culture apparently…

    • Sherbies says:

      03:43pm | 11/11/10

      YES!!! I’m so sick of that! A few people I work with are like that.

    • iansand says:

      06:53pm | 11/11/10

      I am a hopeless old fogey, but my rule 1 of travelling is to always have the first night in a new place confirmed at least 24 hours before arrival.  That is one reason that god invented hotel chains.

    • Kate says:

      10:41am | 12/11/10

      Oh god yes. I know so many people my age who think they’re so unique and awesome for only holidaying in India and Cambodia. That’s great, but don’t judge me because I wanted to see New York and LA instead!

    • Amber says:

      11:15am | 12/11/10

      There are about a billion fabulous things to see ON the beaten track,  well before the need to get OFF it, arises.

    • bella starkey says:

      03:20pm | 11/11/10

      I’m going on holidays for a month with a friend i have known for about 8 years. In that time we have had some spectacular fights and i think that has prepared us well for this.

      She is also a huge fan of sharing her bodily functions with the whole world so i am used to knowing way too much about her. I think it will be grwat if we don’t end up killing each other

    • iansand says:

      03:22pm | 11/11/10

      What about if Anthony Sharwood goes on a holiday to Melbourne?

    • NicoleG says:

      05:28pm | 11/11/10

      Why, what did he do? Sheesh, everyone’s been picking on him lately!

    • Neville Lehmann says:

      03:27pm | 11/11/10

      Three times in my life best friends have fallen out on holidays away and never talked to each other again. One couple actually ended in a physical brawl. AND i have known people who have been sick for months afterwards.My biggest oversight overseas was four days/nights in Rome and did not think to go and see the the Fountain de Trevi at night. Duh!
      Personally i have loved my holidays away but these days it is not the lack of planning that lets me down but rather the lack of fitness….

    • Richele says:

      11:22am | 12/11/10

      Oh, you’re friends with Matthew Newton!

    • S.L says:

      03:50pm | 11/11/10

      Look out everyone! After a seperation and the sale of one of my businesses I will soon be the Lone Traveller and might become the third wheel/ hanger on? If you are on a cruise or guided tour don’t worry I’m more of an off the beaten track sort of holiday maker. I don’t mean Leyland Brothers style but I prefer less touristy destinations.
      Oh yes and why will I have a great time when I take off? Because where I choose to go and how long I stay there will not be a matter for debate!

    • Laura says:

      03:51pm | 11/11/10

      My husband and I just came back from a week in Airlie beach.  What do we say when asked if we had a good holiday? “yeah, fantastic”.  What we should say “actually no, the place is a dive for Swedish backpackers, the town is small and hasn’t come out of the early 1990’s, we don’t snorkel so we sat around for a week bored out of our brains, and the Luxury Airlie Beach Boathouse that we stayed in was actually a filthy disgusting dump!!”

    • TtFH says:

      10:31am | 12/11/10

      You could also say that you forgot to do any research.

    • Lea says:

      12:13pm | 12/11/10

      Heading that way myself in January for two weeks of sailing.  Certainly dont plan to sit around doing nothing if I wanted to do that I would stay home.  Fancy other tourists being at a tourist destination and snorkeling being something you would do in that area of Queensland I would never have suspected that at all.

    • Elphaba says:

      03:56pm | 11/11/10

      Can’t say I’ve ever had any of these problems.  The only thing I’ve suffered from is an empty wallet and post-holiday depression.

      I’ve always had a great time though.

      Lighten up. wink

    • The Cricket says:

      05:55pm | 11/11/10

      I agree with Elphaba.
      I have brilliant memories from my travels, the many places I’ve been over the years and the people I’ve met.
      You have good experiences and bad experiences on holidays. But they’re all experiences. And the worst experiences almost always end up being the best stories!

    • Shane From Melbourne says:

      05:57pm | 11/11/10

      I find beer from the vending machines in Tokyo helps- thus the need for handfuls of 100 yen coins…..

    • Shane From Melbourne says:

      08:27pm | 11/11/10

      Back again. My single biggest whinge about solo travel is the fact that they charge you extra for accommodation and cruises etc. when you are the sole traveller. Hello? It’s still the same room / cabin regardless of whether there is one or two people in there…..

    • Biteme says:

      09:42pm | 11/11/10

      I had a best mate of 6 years. I paid for him to accompany me on a business trip to Hong Kong, because he too wanted to start his own business. Unfortunately on a visit to a Chinese factory the immigration soldiers wouldn’t let him in with an Australian passport saying “Birth Place India”. So he went back to Hong Kong hotel room. The next morning when we checked out the lady wanted to charge us for a can of diet coke that had been taken the day before when I was in China. I told my mate it was your fee as I wasn’t even there to drink it. He refused saying he didn’t drink it either. After a 15 minute discussion in the end I paid, but on the 2 hour bus trip back to the airport and then the 10 hour flight back to Australia we didn’t speak a single word to each other. We never saw each other again after that.

    • Richele says:

      11:25am | 12/11/10

      What a jerk.

    • Kate says:

      05:35am | 12/11/10

      This is why I love the ‘holiday at home’. People think I am being cheap or lazy - there is an element of truth to both - however, when you live in a crowded, traffic mad city like Sydney then the relative quiet of the Xmas break and chance to go to the Zoo, galleries, ferry rides, national parks (there is three that I know of) without the enormous queues and parking frustration is delicious.

    • KH says:

      07:02am | 12/11/10

      I’ve got one - returning to a place you previously had a brilliant time in, only to have a not so brilliant time and now its ruined forever…........hehehe happened to me once - Berlin - it was great, went to football games, walked in the snow, christmas market waffles and gluwein…........went there again only in March - mmmmmmmm it was somewhat disappointing the second time around, and had me questioning my memory of the first time around!!  For this reason, I will never return to Florence - by far the most amazing place I ever went, had a fantastic time, and I don’t want to ruin that memory!

    • Lucy Kippist

      Lucy Kippist says:

      07:22am | 12/11/10

      I love your comment KH and completely agree! I went to Prague when I finished school and will never go back because I’m scared I’d hate it now and ruin all those fantastic first time travelling memories.

    • Jaypalm says:

      08:36am | 12/11/10

      Geez…. I’m going on a 7 week holiday in February as an extended honeymoon with my (soon to be) wife. A bit of the touristy stuff - a group tour in Central America where we would otherwise get lost and die - and a bit of the ‘doing our own thing’ as we make our way across the US. Does anyone have any stories of coming back from travels being happier/more in love with their partner? Yikes.

    • E says:

      07:13pm | 12/11/10

      Hey Jaypalm, my husband and I drove from LA to Vegas and spent a week there and got married. We booked it a couple of days ahead and had only booked the week of accommodation. Driving in the US is very stressful….we also did the Canyon, Utah, all down California coast to San Diego….if you don’t like traffic I wouldn’t recommend spending too much time in the cities. Would absolutely recommend Lake Tahoe and Reno. 5 star hotel in Reno cost US$70 per night and I have never had food or service in Perth like I did there. We had so many fights in the car I was wondering wether we did the right thing marrying but as soon as we got home it was all lovey dovey again! Just don’t let the stress get to you, plus you must get a GPS. Recommend Dollar Rental as they are the cheapest and good service. We didn’t plan anything after Vegas so just went from city to city which was great, I had printed out stuff that would interest us along the way, but otherwise didn’t book any hotels - at the pit stops are free magazines all containing hotel vouchers. Have fun…

    • Rich says:

      08:43am | 12/11/10

      Number 1. Forget Paris. Xo@

    • Julie says:

      10:05am | 12/11/10

      Seems to me too many expectations are put on “holidays” . If you find the person you are going with has irritating qualities in smallish doses at home (examples: routines, food fads, worrier about time, health or work) what makes you think they are magically different when you are with them 24/7 in a location they may or may NOT enjoy?

    • Kirsty says:

      11:00am | 12/11/10

      Holidays are never perfect - just like life. What matters is if you concentrate on the bits where you got sick and made a real mess of the hotel bathroom or on the achievement of still hiking up a mountain the next day and the amazing scenery on the way up.

    • Anjuli says:

      11:03am | 12/11/10

      The best part of holidays away ,is coming back to Australia ,I know I felt like kissing the tarmac when i landed back in Perth ,back then I could smell the gum trees ,afterward getting home into my own shower and then my lovely bed.

    • Anjuli says:

      11:04am | 12/11/10

      The worst part is packing for me.

    • Jenni says:

      06:05pm | 12/11/10

      I find one of the hardest things about going away on holidays is justifying doing absolutely nothing. I recently went to Melbourne and stayed with friends and on only my second day there I stayed in bed until 2pm, then moved as far as the couch with my laptop for the rmainder of the day. When I mention this to people they lament that I “wasted my day” and I “should have been out enjoying doing something.”

      How is it wasted? I spent the day doing exactly what I wanted to do, in order to relax. I *was* “enjoying doing something” - I was enjoying sleeping, and then relaxing on the couch, It was a great day LOL

    • thesne says:

      09:27pm | 12/11/10

      Point one wouldn’t be from personal experence would it? *wink*

 

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