It’s hard to believe that another year is over and tonight thoughts of Santa Clause’s arrival into homes across Australia will have many a young mind too excited to sleep.  It’s a fabulous time of year for sure and as things wind down towards Saturday, the festive spirit is rapidly starting to sink it. 

Ho, ho, ho ... yeah, yeah, yeah….

Around this time of year I always find myself reminiscing back to when I was a child and it always gets me thinking, is Christmas still the same? Overlooking the obvious differences of my AGE and the fact that I now spend my Christmas in a hot climate away from the snowed over landscapes of Europe – do I still celebrate Christmas like I used to?

Not getting into any of the religious aspects of Christmas, for me the spirit has always been that something in the air, that thing that can’t really be described but which I know exists. A festive feeling, a general vibe! For some reason though, I’m not feeling it yet this year and I’m wondering why?

Christmas trees and lights certainly help to make the Season bright but beneath that surface I think that something needs to click internally before a person starts feeling Christmassy.

I was in a taxi the other day and the driver started telling me his views about Christmas, it was a genuine Bah Humbug assault! “It’s got no meaning anymore”, he said, “it puts people under too much strain to spend even more money than they already do. 

Take my missus”, he continued, “Last year she buys me a gold necklace. I couldn’t lie to her, it was disgusting. Why did you get me something so ugly I asked and you know what she told me? It’s Christmas, I have to buy you something.“

Strangely enough, it seems other people share the taxi driver’s view.  I’ve lost count of the amount of people who have mentioned their lack of interest in the festive season, everything is too expensive and how they’re happy to work through it and catch the sales in the New Year.  Maybe it’s that subliminal negativity that has me feeling less Christmassy than usual? Has some of my Christmas essence been lost to commerciality?

With the recent reports that retail sales are down this year and Gerry Harvey claiming that things have slumped as bad as during the last recession – the commercial side of Christmas is certainly on the minds of a lot of people. In some places, livelihoods rely on this time of the year being commercially successful. 

That’s tough, in a year of increased interest rates and soaring energy prices, disposable income is in shorter supply this year and no doubt stores will have to fight hard for every dollar they receive. It’s sad but I don’t think it’s commerciality that has me feeling less Christmassy.  So what is it then?

My son Jarvis has just entered the room and asked if I’d take him and his brother for a drive to see all the houses that are lit up in our neighbourhood. I said I couldn’t, I need to finish my work. As soon as the words left my mouth, I discovered what I was missing.

As plain as the writing on this page, the root of my Ebenezer Scrooge is of course myself.  Not the fact that I’m still working or that this is a busy time of the year for me, it’s the fact that I haven’t allowed my inner kid to start to come out yet, I haven’t given any of my time to this season yet.

I haven’t stopped to look at my kids stockings that are hanging on the mantle piece or the baubles they’ve placed on the tree- I’ve showed little interest in the advent calendar who’s chocolate, my youngest son has eaten almost entirely.  In truth, I’ve been too grown up and serious of late.

Christmas is a time for family, for celebration, for joy and most of all it’s for children to get swept up in mystery and surprise.  It’s about letting go of the mundane day to day workings and allowing yourself to be youthful again- to place a stocking on the mantle piece with your own name on it, to play Bing Crosby’s Christmas Carols over and over again, to count down the days with the kids until Santa arrives and most of all, to start having some fun.

That’s it, with this last line I’m signing off. A red and green elf hat that my wife bought is close at hand, I’m going to put it on and then call the kids. We’re going for a drive!  Merry Christmas to one and All. See you in 2011.

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    • acotrel says:

      05:29am | 24/12/10

      If you’re sweating about the money you’re spending on christmas, you need to remember ‘you’re a long time dead’!.  ‘Eat drink and be merry’, and be thankful you’re alive to enjoy your family.

    • Steve says:

      05:47am | 24/12/10

      For most people it is just another day of the week. Think of all the people that still have to work security guards, police, ambulance, firies, service stations, electricity workers, water company workers, defence personal and other critical industries. Then there are the people who have no family to celebrate with either because they have passed on or they don’t talk anymore or they live on the other side of the country or the world.

      Please spare a thought for these people this christmas there is a reason that the Suicide rate is higher in the christmas season.

    • Shifter says:

      01:43pm | 24/12/10

      Whilst I’m not ‘in the office’ so to speak I am on call for the Christmas weekend. I don’t think I was fully Christmassy until this morning when my train driver rolled up to the station dressed in a Santa suit waving madly out the front window at everybody. It’s made my weekend already.

    • Janet says:

      06:34am | 24/12/10

      Damien, you have just hit the nail on the head with my own feelings toward Christmas. 
      The problem is me. 
      I don’t have a tree up. No cards hanging up, just one bauble hanging from a light fitting. 
      I also think that Political Correctness has a lot to do with it. I would always feel Christmassy walking through the shopping centre with all the lovely carols playing and all the decorations.
      Santa would be walking around ho ho hoing talking to the children and it was exciting.
      You don’t get that anymore. I would like it all brought back.
      I don’t think I have even seen one Santa, let alone a Nativity scene.
      It was only about two days ago that I realised that I hadn’t changed my doorbell over to ‘O Come All Ye Faithful’.  I would normally do that early December.

      The Christmas lights around here have been few and far between this year.  Cost of electricity, apathy, other things going on?  Who knows, but this year really seems to be a black yer for Christmas.

      My gifts are wrapped.  Just waiting on two more which are on the Aust. Post truck today.

      I hope your family enjoyed the little drive last night anbd that you, your wife and Jarvis and Jagger have a wonderful Christmas and 2011.

      I will look forward to more great articles from you and to hearing the new album that I have heard you have been recording in Nashville.

      All the best and by the way Merry Christmas to all.

    • TChong says:

      08:31am | 24/12/10

      Janet:- Maybe the lack of Chrissy lites and decorations is patchy.
      On a recent visit to Sydney -( relos at Castle Hill , near Parramatta), the whole place “Castle Towers” Westfield had more chrissy decorations, Santas etc, than you can poke a stick at.
      Also many houses around the suburb have lights and things everywhere.
      Hope the ol’Chrissy cheer finds it way to your place, starting with the festive door chime, and getting better from there.

    • HeatherG says:

      10:15am | 24/12/10

      For me it’s the opposite. When I was a kid, I liked Christmas (but didn’t love it), yah, there was the Santa thing, but not until the last couple of weeks of December. Now, malls/shops are decorating in early November, for pity’s sake. Christmas has become a 2-month long stress fest. By the time Dec 25 rolls around, I’m heartily sick and tired of the whole thing. By December 3rd or so I’m about ready to strangle whoever sings the next rendition of “O Come All Ye Faithful”.

      I also have 2 children, a mother and my own birthdays around the Christmas period, and I am probably influenced somewhat by the fact that I have some genuine difficulties financially making rent most fortnights and I feel incredibly guilty that I can’t spoil my kids at this time of year. I want to, but I just can’t (but that’s my issue).

      My 11 year-old asked me why we celebrate it. As a family, we are not overly religious (either Judaeo-Christian or pagan), so the symbolism is not as relevant as for some people; so I said it was a time for families to spend time together. His reply was a bright, “but we already do that, do we need to have one day where we pretend to do stuff we already do?” He had a point, so I said that humans need to celebrate. His reply, “we celebrate your birthday, mine, [brother’s name] and grandma’s. It’s all a bit much, mum. When it’s all about the presents it’s a bit silly, don’t you think?”

      I’m not sure if he’s being cynical, practical or enlightened.

      Christmas is too much, I believe. I was reading the Little House on the Prairie books last week (I was having “Nostalgic Childhood week” while laid up with the flu), and in this period, Christmas was one night—one—and the kids were happy to receive fruit and small tokens. Whenever Christ may (or may not) have been born, there is a lot to be said for the simple symbolism of that. We’ve taken it too far, and it’s become a burden on many as a result.

    • Pleasure O'Reilly says:

      10:44am | 24/12/10

      Heather, yes. - and all for pity’s sake! My Mum got an orange for her Christmases (in Europe), my hubby got…. nothing. Incredibly they are still alive today, and appear mentally unaffected by such a difficult upbringing. Despite having loving parents you have to admire their spunk in overcoming the odds, ay?
      and yeah, so over the pre, pre, pre Christmas preparations, way too early, when you have to go through SCs listening to Christmas songs in October, I just want go in there and scrape that needle right across the record.!

    • acotrel says:

      07:12am | 24/12/10

      Janet, I was in Big W yesterday, and they were playing christmas carols.  When my wife caught up with me, I made sure I was bopping along with the music!

    • Mouse says:

      08:33am | 24/12/10

      OMG acotrel…I would have paid to see that!! 
      Have a very Merry Christmas and a happy & safe New Year. I look forward to reading you next year.

    • Nafe says:

      07:54am | 24/12/10

      It is certainly a bleak Christmas this year on the Christmas Cheer front. There are no where near the amount of Christmas lights driving around. Even our local Council doesn’t have the Christmas tree up this year. Very disapointing.

      We all need to rediscover the magic and cheer of Christmas. What about the days when Council had banners, tinsel, bells etc on the main streets, Christmas carols are still not as common as usual either.

      How hard is it to find Christmas books? Even the Nativity story. And while at it, haven’t seen a nativity scene areound either. It has definatly been a very sterilised Christmas.

    • ibast says:

      08:14am | 24/12/10

      I’ve been of the mindset for a number of years and I’ve come to the conclusion that the retail sector has killed Christmas.  When they start the Christmas push in late October the whole thing just becomes jaded. You feel obliged to be buy something, rather than wanting to buy something.

      And everything is so tacky and cliche. Chistmas lights, snowmen, raindeer antlers on cars . . . . Why can’t Australia develop our own Christmas culture rather than rely on a characterture of Northern hemisphere Christmas?

    • MelD says:

      08:45am | 24/12/10

      Oh please retailers are forcing you to buy things you normally wouldn’t???? Are they holding a gun to your head? Christmas doesn’t need to be expensive, in our family only the kids get presents but the adults have more fun.

      as for the people who work this is nothing new, these industries have always worked over Christmas it’s not a new development, I am working over the period with only the public holidays off not because it’s another day but i don’t have any leave left.

      don’t have family? don’t speak to your family? find some friends in similar circumstances and celebrate with them, it doesn’t have to be a bleak time of year Christmas is about family, but family doesn’t have to be the one you were born to, it can be the one you make with good friends

      MERRY CHRISTMAS!

    • Pleasure O'Reilly says:

      08:53am | 24/12/10

      My generation and earlier got mostly small presents, they were very special, and if we didn’t get what we wanted, or anything at all, we learned to cope (regularly!)
      Now, there is a mad scramble to make sure that kids from poor or neglectful parents who can’t budget get a load of toys as if not getting some would ruin their life.
      I have to buy expensive presents for my spoiled nieces and nephews, that’s what’s expected, and I don’t want to be bitched about or argued with.
      That’s not what Christmas is about, and that’s why I’m jaded. (sigh)

    • bugalug says:

      02:24pm | 26/12/10

      Yep, I got a annoyed buying my nieces and nephew presents each Christmas when they are already absolutely spoiled by the grandparents almost every week.  I remember watching one of them open my present bought on the advice of their parents.  It was some action character that had been invented solely to merchandise (I am cynical) and I saw them push it around a couple of time and then just throw it into their already massive collection of previous years action character merchandise, probably never to be picked up again.  It’s not the cost that bothers me, just to complete lack of utility value in these items.

      Best decision I made was to open bank accounts for them all and deposit money into them for birthdays and Christmas in lieu of presents.  If I see something small and unique on my travels throughout the year, I’ll get that for them in the hope that it will give them something to remember my by, as it was not some mass produced crap.  Once they hit 18, the money is theirs to do as they please, hopefully go travel and find something unique to remember….

    • merry christmas you'all says:

      08:55am | 24/12/10

      Christmas carols on the stereo, watching the little kids get excited when they approach store Santa, the smells of my wife going the bake-fest (thankfully for my waist - mostly gifts), finishing work for the year with a group lunch then drop some food off to RSPCA and then tonight, pop out to the shed late tonight and have a couple beers while doing my wrapping. Fantastic time of the year.

    • Its the season to be jolly says:

      09:04am | 24/12/10

      Oh Ho Hum!  Reading these comments could well kill off any festive spirit.  Christmas is what you make it.  Yeh if $$$ are tight be sensible, though being sensible doesn’t mean we can’t enjoy the day.

      Relax, kick back and be thankful we live in Australia and have a computer and internet to whine on.

      Merry Christmas Damien and Family and all Punch staff and contributers:)

    • Pleasure O'Reilly says:

      09:17am | 24/12/10

      If it’s one thing I’m enjoying, it’s hanging with these sad sacks. Bah Humbug!
      wink

    • Tripper Smurf says:

      09:22am | 24/12/10

      I get over the whole ‘Christmas Spirit’ about the second week of November.  By this stage the shops have had the decorations and Christmas Carols going for a fortnight and I actively detest the innane songs that get more grating with every passing year.

    • hot tub political machine says:

      09:49am | 24/12/10

      The all powerful retail sector can’t beat the individual or family with a bit of creativity.

      So its not pc to have nativity scenes in shops - the individual or fmuly can still read or hear a story about the light of the world being born among humans today.

      Everything costs too much, a chicken and a beer would not be as good as I like it - but its good enough. Its spending like 4 hours at the the table that really makes a Christmas lunch - enough cashews could keep me there. ]

      Someone very dear to me is working Christmas day - so we will have breakfast together.

      Oh and speaking as someone who has had a couple of poor (by Australian standards) Christmas times in the past - your never poor when you know generous people, don’t be too proud to reject a genuine offer of charity.

    • Vaunted says:

      10:23am | 24/12/10

      It’s nothing more than that day when many of us celebrate the birth and life of Jesus Christ - retail surely doesn’t have to come into it. Spend time and make memories with our loved ones, spread goodwill amongst friends and the community, do kind things for strangers, think about our lives and our place on the planet, get our focus back to what’s important. Thank you Punchers for pleasant hours in your company, a very Merry Christmas to every one of you, and may all of us enjoy have a more productive and prosperous 2011.

    • Merry Christmas says:

      01:01pm | 24/12/10

      I agree - it IS a celebration of Jesus Christ, so keep it simple. The perfect gift has already been given, so why try and find other ways to make Christmas perfect and exciting when there’s already an amazing reason to celebrate? Just enjoy the time, keep the issues that are stressing you out in perspective, and find someone to celebrate with. (Possibly easier said than done? But still.) Merry Christmas everyone!

    • MelD says:

      02:46pm | 24/12/10

      most of us don’t celebrate it as the birth of Jesus since he wasn’t born at this time of year, christianity moved the date to coincide with the winter solstice to convert pagans to christianity.

      but that doesn’t mean it has to blow the budget

      Happy Solstice!

    • bah humbug says:

      10:53am | 24/12/10

      christmas nazis have turned me into a grinch -

      i have nothing really against the day but the ever expanding and invasive crap associated with it has made we start to hate it and its devotees. the stores with the christmas crap on sale months in advance, the same crap tv shows, the same crap movies, the “i’m only doing this because its christmas” types….

    • Middle-aged-grump says:

      11:57am | 24/12/10

      For years I have found xmas annoying. For a start I am an atheist, but even the secular portion of the season is annoying. People eat to much, buy useless crap for people who dont want it, drink too much, engage in stupid behaviour that they would not normally do, become stessed, suffer anxiety problems due to unbelievable expectations. Finally we get to the biggest insanity. Struggling families will invariably spend a fortune on credit cards in a bid not to disappoint their family and friends. They manage to pay off the debt by October, just in time to start it all again. My extended family know to leave me alone and not invite me anywhere. Hows that for being a grinch.

    • MelD says:

      02:47pm | 24/12/10

      not bad grump, but people have choices, it’s their choice to put themselve into debt or to drink too much or stuff ourselves full of food, who cares? it’s a celebration of life and family

    • notSue says:

      03:17pm | 24/12/10

      Christmas spirit is definitely all about being young at heart and enjoying the Season with loved ones Damien. I’m glad your boys reminded you of that. (if Hobart carols the other night didn’t ).
      It must be strange to be in a totally different climate and away from some family members at this time of year, but we Southern Hemisphereians still know how to celebrate it. ..even if it’s at the beach!..and even if we’re broke!
      I hope you burst into singing Christmas carols with your family on that drive. We just did and it was so much fun! Ho Ho Ho!!

    • Gift Voucher Coucher says:

      10:47am | 25/12/10

      I gave lots of people the shits for xmas from Oxfam - manure for gardens in under developed countries.  And the rest were give cards which donated condoms as there are just too many people in the world.  And if I could I’d donate to the Stop Xmas Carols in Shoping Centres Before mid December.

    • Deb Angel says:

      12:25am | 26/12/10

      Thanks for your thoughts Damien, I love christmas and now I know why!
      Because for a couple of weeks I put away my boring adult hat and put on my Santa cap and see it all through the eyes of my kids. We put up the tree, add new dec’s every year, a decent amount of lights out the front so that people stop to look at our house, lots of festive baking. We bake shortbread for the neighbours, buy small thankyou gifts for all the people who have made a difference in our lives this year, play old and modern christmas music, the whole deal! I am teaching traditions and making memories for my daughters. What’s not to be happy about!

    • Jasmine says:

      09:30am | 26/12/10

      A lot of people in my area didn’t bother putting up lights- it’s too wet. This year both families said no presents because no one can afford it, then a week before Christmas changed their minds.

      I have rego, bills and other stuff to pay in December. Where’s my Christmas spirit? It went to pay so I would have electricity on 25 Dec.

      As for the presents, I got a water jug from Aldi and cheap cushions from Kmart. Next year people will be instructed to give me money instead of presents.

    • Jason says:

      11:41am | 26/12/10

      We halved our Christmas spend this year, made the most of enjoying each other’s company and had one of the best Christmases ever.  Don’t subscribe to the retail BS and it’s still a great family day.

    • Minnie says:

      09:24am | 17/10/11

      Great artcile, thank you again for writing.

 

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