Once upon a time when you engaged in sex, whether within a relationship or casually, the most you had to worry about was who had a condom nearby. Or about remembering to take the pill every day. Now we have to worry about being filmed. So other people can watch us.

Giving another meaning to shared intimacy. Photo: Adam Ward.

Having sex with someone involves a certain amount of trust. It can be argued that you can’t expect trust (or fidelity) with a one night stand or casual sex. But you can and should expect respect. Whatever happened to that?

I think it left the building around the same time iPhones turned up and started to run the show.

I carry around a camera, video recorder and GPS device in my handbag. All day. Every day. I can also upload any of these functions quite easily onto Facebook. Convenient? Yes. Scary? Absolutely. But, like most of Gen Y, it has become second nature to me.

I don’t give it a second thought that I have this amount of technology at my disposal until I hear stories like this in the media and I think: “Shit - this could happen to me and I would be none the wiser”.

I doubt I’m the only girl who doesn’t lie awake at night worrying that I have been filmed without my consent. I guess I just think I wouldn’t want to watch it - so why would anybody else?

The most a girl thinks about while fooling around with someone is “wow, this is good” or “wow, what was I thinking?”. It might be wise to ensure all laptops are closed and iPhones are completely out of reach. But, do you think about that stuff in the heat of the moment? I don’t.

When I think of a video camera I think of one of those old school JVCs on a tripod. But these days Apple have made it part of our everyday life. Even the MacBooks have a tiny camera at the top of the screen and if you didn’t own one you wouldn’t know it existed.

If you saw a rug and a tripod you would run for the hills - but this kind of stuff is being recorded against your will. Sure, the sex might be consensual, but the rest isn’t. And that’s uncool.

I was disappointed this week to see the ‘blame the victim’ attitude rear its ugly head again. She had sex with a colleague and although it’s against disciplinary rules it’s hard to believe it never happens.

These guys are away for months at a time. If they’re not shagging themselves, they’re shagging each other. The next day it was revealed that ‘Kate’ had been advised to publicly apologise to her fellow cadets, and during a meeting cadets yelled out “name and shame the dirty slut”. Give me a break.

Why is she labelled a slut while the guy who allegedly filmed her and the group of guys who were allegedly watching via Skype still have their reputations intact?

Watching a couple have sex (via Skype or whatever) without permission IS perverted. She’s not a ‘dirty slut’ for having sex with a fellow cadet. Why is the guy who filmed ‘Kate’ without permission not a “dirty slut”?

If anyone should be publicly apologising it should be him. He has dragged the Defence Force Academy through the mud this week. He has something to be sorry for. Not her.

The way the Defence Force handled the complaint was appalling and will certainly make parents with young daughters who want to enter the force think twice.

If I was interested in applying for a Defence job this would deter me. It shows that this sort of blokey culture is not just restricted to footy codes. If the Defence Force is serious about recruiting women it needs to take sexual misconduct complaints seriously.

This is a crisis and it certainly won’t attract more women into the force. The Defence Force is now in damage control, and giving these guys a slap on the wrist is practically a slap in the face to ‘Kate’.

Defence Minister Stephen Smith this week impressively refused to back the embattled senior officer who ordered disciplinary proceedings against the victim for absence without official leave and alcohol abuse.

It makes me wonder how going to Channel Ten’s Hugh Riminton with her story was inexcusable, yet the cadet who entrapped “Kate” in a sex tape was not.

When she approached senior management, she was allegedly told the culprits were likely to get off with a relatively minor “prejudicial conduct” charge. She immediately went to Channel Ten. That takes some serious lady balls. Good on her.

The reality is that Australian law is failing to keep in step with the speed of technology. In this case apparently no ACT territory law had been broken. Despite this girl being filmed without her consent.

But these laws differ throughout Australian states and territories. This is the scary part; there isn’t ONE blanket law that governs this sort of anti-social behaviour. There ought to be, as the internet and social media is only going to get bigger - and so are the problems.

91 comments

Show oldest | newest first

    • Erick says:

      04:48am | 15/04/11

      “Why is she labelled a slut while the guy who allegedly filmed her and the group of guys who were allegedly watching via Skype still have their reputations intact?”

      “Reputations intact”? These guys have rightfully been shamed for what they did. Everyone acknowledges that what they did was wrong. They will no doubt be severely disciplined, probably will l be expelled, and may yet face criminal charges. Moreover, the government has announced no less than _six_ different inquiries triggered by this incident.

      You have to be living on some weird feminist planet to see that as the woman being shamed, and the guys having “reputations intact”.

      As for making secret videos of sexual encounters, I’m undecided. On the one hand, it’s a violation of privacy, especially if it gets on the Net. On the other hand, in a legal and social climate where men’s careers and lives are frequently destroyed by false accusations of rape, video evidence can and has been used to save the innocent. So the practice has its pros and cons.

    • BK says:

      07:45am | 15/04/11

      This whole idea that men are never criticised for their sex life is insane. These men have their reputations in the dirt, where it belongs.

      Furthermore, this concern about double-standards is very selective.  Flirty women get all sorts of favours from men. Men need to risk rejection and approach women, while women don’t. Women get everything from free drinks to favourable treatment from some employers, police, publicans etc. Women can get casual sex with men who are out of their league, men cannot.
      Women who want long term relationships need to give up these double standards and avoid blokes who are too eager to please. Promiscuous women’s behaviour is all about taking advantage of double-standards.

    • KH says:

      07:59am | 15/04/11

      Have they? I haven’t seen any shadowy pictures of them on the news or even a fake name. Nor do they appear to have been disciplined.

      And only a pervert films people without consent whilst they are having sex. A filthy disgusting pervert. Nothing to be undecided about.  I didn’t hear anyone claiming to be raped. This was clearly just a pervert and his dickhead mates who like watching their friends have sex, which is a whole other level of weird.

    • Vaunted says:

      08:51am | 15/04/11

      Some good points Erick but I’m still confused about rooting in the barracks. Have I missed out on something?

    • Markus says:

      08:58am | 15/04/11

      “Nor do they appear to have been disciplined”.
      Apparently even the inhuman monsters that are the military have this crazy convention where one is presumed innocent until proven guilty. I believe it is called a fair trial, perhaps you’ve heard of it?

    • Mike says:

      09:33am | 15/04/11

      I haven’t yet seen any “naming and shaming” of the scum who did this to her.  Watch them and the whole thing disappear under an ADF whitewash…  And as for “innocent until proven guilty”,  it doesn’t seem to have applied to her, does it?

    • Troy says:

      11:41am | 15/04/11

      No way, Erick.  You are way off the mark on this one. 

      First, secretly filming someone having sex with you or someone else is morally reprehensible.  There are no “pros and cons” to that idea at all, full stop.  My god, I can’t believe you would even suggest that. 

      Second, as for “naming and shaming the dirtly slut”, perhaps you missed the fact that this is what was said in a meeting of the cadets and that the girl in question was forced to apologise.  That is what the author is highlighting.  Why was she forced to do this, in the first instance, and called a “dirty slut”?  Sure, enquiries are now happening, but that’s only because of her going public, isn’t it.  And, in any event, they still haven’t really be “named and shamed”, have they?  But she has.  That much is clear.

    • Markus says:

      12:05pm | 15/04/11

      “perhaps you missed the fact that this is what was said in a meeting of the cadets and that the girl in question was forced to apologise.”
      Perhaps you missed the fact it has been confirmed that this never actually happened?

    • Tim says:

      12:17pm | 15/04/11

      Markus,
      Correct.
      There is so much misinformation in this article it’s not funny.
      If found guilty (which they will be) these guys will be booted out of ADFA. 100% guaranteed.
      KH,
      you haven’t seen any shadowy figures of the men involved because they didn’t go to the media. Which I might note is another rule that the girl has broken.
      ADFA and the defence force handled this matter exactly how it should be and the final outcome will be the correct one.
      Unfortunately the media and a lot of uninformed idiots like scandalising everything without even verifying any of the evidence.

    • Rose Russo says:

      12:30pm | 15/04/11

      Just for the record, the information at the time I wrote this article was what was at hand. As most of you would know, it takes time for articles to be written, approved and subsequently published. Hence why more information has come to light since this piece was written.

    • Lee Enfield says:

      01:26pm | 15/04/11

      @Rose: That is all good and well, but why didn’t you update the story to reflect the update in the information. The correct information has been public knowledge for a week, more than enough time for you to update your facts. But updating your facts would mean this article would be obsolete. 
      Your reasons for not presenting the correct and accurate facts in your article, are slack. If for whatever reason, you could not update the article, then the article should never have been posted in the first place. It is simply not fair on the ADF, Commodre Kafer, “Kate” and the Numpties who filmed and watched, for Steven Smiths lies to be perpetuated.
      Either way, this is poor journalism.

    • Video is the way to go says:

      03:06pm | 15/04/11

      Yet again, Erick is spot on. With the amount of false rape accusations and the inherent “guilty until proven innocent” bias in relation to rape allegations, it is in the interest of men to secretly film their sexual experiences in order to protect themselves.

      This has already occurred. A few years ago, a section of riflemen (I shall not name the unit), had consensual sex with a woman. The next day she falsely accused of them of rape and they were subsequently brought in for questioning. Fortunately, one of them had the foresight to film the sexual encounter, which clearly showed she was consenting, and the charges were dropped.

      In this day and age, where women falsely accuse men of rape and are rarely punished when found guilty of making false allegations, it is in the interest of men to secretly film any sexual encounters.

    • Alison says:

      09:34pm | 15/04/11

      If a man secretly films a woman while he’s having sex with her then at the very least he’s proven himself to completely disregard the woman’s right to informed consent. Had she known she would be filmed she may not have consented to sex. Any film he therefore presented to ‘prove’ that she consented should be considered void. It should also be considered illegal material and he should be charged with a criminal offence.

      By the way, false rape claims are no more common than false reports for other crimes. And rape convictions are notoriously rare. The suggestion that men’s lives are ‘frequently destroyed’ by false rape claims is exxageration and hyperbole.

    • Robert Smissen, rural SA, God's own country says:

      11:39pm | 15/04/11

      BK if you knock back being coersed into something by a flirty female their rage is white hot & they try to bring you down for having the audacity to not fall for their feminine wiles

    • Erick says:

      05:14am | 16/04/11

      Typical feminist views from Alison. If men are proven innocent of rape by video, they should be held guilty, and also charged with other crimes. Men have no rights in a feminist world.

      As for false rape claims, they are very common. In fact some studies suggest the false reporting rate is as high as fifty per cent. Women who lie about rape are rarely punished, and as Alison’s comment shows, men are still considered guilty by feminists even if the accusation is proven to be a lie.

    • BK says:

      10:11am | 16/04/11

      I would rather be convicted of videoing without consent than rape. Denying the frequency of false rape allegations shows a complete inability to empathise with men who face them and is misandry.

    • Louis says:

      05:09am | 15/04/11

      I don’t think anyone with half a brain would argue what these young men did was wrong. Having gone through ADFA and RMC I would also argue that fraternisation, while against Standing Orders, is widespread and in most cases a blind eye turned to it. I also agree that this young lady is going to have to wear the embarressment of this incident for the rest of her career.

      But I don’t get why you say that the way the Defence Force handled this complaint was appalling. From what I can tell the Commandant did exactly what he was supposed to - he had a Quick Assessment completed, on the basis of that the AFP were involved and delivered their take on the incident. He then launched a formal investigation into the incident. These investigations take time. She also had done AWOL and drinking when she wasn’t supposed to (minor really) and been warned out for disciplinary action as she should have been.

      The media are jumping all over this as the young men are still attending classes. Innocent until proven guilty I always thought was the way the law worked, and I have no doubt the investigation will show that (if we know the full story that is). However, the Minister in my opinion has completely undermined the military system, which while perhaps flawed in the past, has done exactly what they were supposed to in this case. The issue is he is pandering to the media, and has micro-managed an issue that should be dealt with in-house. This is the real issue. I think there is more to this story than what the media know/reported on but thats just my opinion.

      Having said all that, calling her a slut etc is completely inappropriate. Going to the media wasn’t her best decision in my opinion, but even so, going around bullying and harrassing her for doing so is a very low act.

    • Pete says:

      07:35am | 15/04/11

      I would have to agree 100% with this,  And it would also be helpful to remember that the cadets ( all of them are primarily subject to military law not civil until a civil crime was committed, So I support the cadet being on default parade in front of the commandant and he hearing military charges of AWOL and drunkedness. this was totally seperate to the other incident.

      It really is starting to smell a bit like” Lets go the military to get Julia off the frontpage”

    • Seamus says:

      09:20am | 15/04/11

      Good article Louis and you are spot on.

    • trentyn says:

      09:28am | 15/04/11

      @pete, sorry to be a bit of a pedant, but can you explain the comment: “subject to military law not civil until a civil crime was committed”

    • Pete says:

      10:22am | 15/04/11

      What I meant was, that at this stage no civil law has been broken, The video thing however unsavoury, was not illegal under civil law, the other matter AWOL and being drunk were internal disciplinary matters.  As a soldier you are subject to military law and are penalised if you break it If as a soldier you break a civil law you are also subject to that law. i should have said that you are subject to military if you breach military law and civil law if you breach civil law.  My point was that the minister has no place commenting on any military law process.

      I can see your point, I didn’t mean to imply that the military is above the law , simply that they are subject to either or both as appropriate, sorry

    • L. Mountbatten says:

      11:19am | 15/04/11

      Louis,
      once again the voice of reason, great comment. I am tiring of The Punch wheeling out the same old comments on this “Skype” Case, yesterdays story entitled “ADFA: Frat house with guns” was the bottom of a downward slide (never seen so many negatives in a comment string, also never seen comments closed so quickly).
      “Australia’s greatest conversation” is largely becoming the same conversation repeated in subtlety different ways.
      It’s time for the Punch to let this criminal case run its course before adding further to the misinformed reporting taking place largely online.

    • marley says:

      03:56pm | 15/04/11

      I’m not so sure no civil law was broken.  The girl gave consent to having a private sexual encounter.  She didn’t give consent to having that private encounter skyped to a bunch of giggling cadets.  So, does her consent to a private act cover this situation, or does the violation of privacy negate her consent?  In which case, we’re looking at sexual assault.

      I don’t know the answer to this question and neither, apparently, do the police (yet) so I wouldn’t be quite so quick to state that there had been no criminal act here.

    • Sarah Bath says:

      05:17am | 15/04/11

      As I have said previously why do we need a defence force?.  Abolish the anzus treaty and abolish the defence force and use the money to fund renewable energy.  We are not at risk of “the domino effect” anymore as that was just a mysnomer created by arms dealing corporations.

      Lets look at Hugo Charves as a role model. 

      peace

    • philip says:

      06:42am | 15/04/11

      seriously sarah its people like you that gives us the reason that we do need the defense force we are surrounded by the largest coastline in the world for any single continental country and you think that we have no reason to protect our country from potential invaders.

      by the way I think what these cretins did to kate against her will ie the recording are dishonourable and should be charged with rape by proxy.

    • sir ronald bradnam says:

      07:00am | 15/04/11

      Good idea sarah and lets all wear pretty flowers in our hair, everyone have butterflies and fluffy bunnies as pets and wacht and listen to the movie Hair everyday. What a wonderful world.

    • PJ says:

      07:23am | 15/04/11

      Sarah,

      I think we should abolish renewable energy and fund the defence force.

      Philip

      There is no such thing as ‘rape by proxy’

    • Retired Soldier says:

      07:40am | 15/04/11

      Geez Sara, what school of naivety did you attend and what the hell do you know about the Domino Effect. I would also wonder what you understand about the operations and responsibility of a Defence Force; apparently very little it seems.
      Sarah perhaps you might do better to read some military history and refrain from comments in this forum until your eyes are wide open and you stop seeing that little fairy in your garden

    • St. Michael says:

      01:24pm | 15/04/11

      Obvious troll is obvious, Sarah.

      The domino effect is not the argument for an ADF.  The prospect of foreign powers occupying or destroying infrastructure just that section of the northwest which contains the majority of Australia’s oil and gas fields is sufficient for that alone, if not the entire national defence.

      As for Hugo Chavez ... who’s he?

      Oh, right, the president of Venezuela who has been taken to task by Amnesty International for politically-motivated arrests.  And also by the UN itself for pressuring voters to join his party, not to mention creating a climate of fear amongst the legal profession and eroding the independence of the judiciary in his own country.  Freedom House does not classify the press in Venezuela as free, either.  When you allow advertising for anti-government organisations, you get your TV licence shut down.  Don’t see that happening in the West or any civilised nation.

      Homicide rates have doubled since he came into power.
      30% of the country’s population have to survive on $US2 per day.
      Its per capita GDP is around $13,000, which makes in 85th in the world.
      And for all his anti-capitalist and anti-US posturing, he doesn’t mind taking the capitalist US’s money, because the US is Venezuela’s primary trading partner.  He also idolises Fidel Castro’s model of economics, whom I think you also do except you’re too gutless to say so and reveal yourself as a communist.

      Some role model you got there.

    • Sarah lives on planet denial says:

      03:10pm | 15/04/11

      Sarah, you can thank the thousands of soldiers who laid down their lives so you have the right to speak in a free country.

      You’d be the first coward to cry for their mummy if the Jap’s invaded again.

    • n_dude says:

      03:43pm | 15/04/11

      Troll - you must be a Liberal Party stooge

    • John C says:

      05:30am | 15/04/11

      I do not really disagree with anything you say but question whether a law against videoing a person in situations like this can work in practice. How would consent or lack of it be proved? Would a written consent form or a recorded verbal assent be required.

      That said, the actions of the male cadet in this situation is reprehensible and the failure of the authorities to properly respond to the girl’s complaint just plain wrong.

    • KH says:

      08:03am | 15/04/11

      Why not? In photography model releases are standard practice. These people were not in “general view” in public, therefore consent should be required. Goodness knows there are plenty of halfwits out there who would consent to it - this woman is clearly not one of them.

    • Markus says:

      09:14am | 15/04/11

      Releases are standard practice in modelling not so much for proof of consent, but acknowledgement that the model has no claim to intellectual property on the photos (as they are being taken for commercial purposes).
      Obviously consent would still be required, but verbal seems more than sufficient for non-commercial purposes.

    • Reggie says:

      11:40am | 15/04/11

      I can’t help wondering how you would impart “consent” in the video and is there such a thing as “retrospective withdrawal of consent?”

      Perhaps the parties should begin with a mutual thumbs-up to camera with NO subsequent edits.  It’s all too much, expansive public fornication is the only answer so everyone becomes bored with it, I know I have.

    • marley says:

      06:54pm | 15/04/11

      Well, Canada has precisely such a law.  Don’t know how it works in practice, but its right there in the Criminal Code amongst sexual offences.  So, I reckon it’d be worth a try.

    • My Opinion says:

      07:08am | 15/04/11

      I seem to recall a few years ago when two women had entrapped Shane Warne into a sexual situation, filmed it without his knowledge, then tried to sell it to media outlets. I remember no outrage, no feminist flag waving, calls for enquiries or charges to be laid against these women. I wonder is it because a woman is caught in the situation is it now fodder for the press?

      Look at the current world where a lot of women are famous for ‘sex tapes’ allegedly leaked to the media, and the amount of ‘sexting’ that is occurring.  I do not condone what the men did, however as an ex military person myself, you never go to the media, and this in my opinion is her downfall.

      I also want to hear the entire facts come out, not just ‘her’ story. If we took everything on face value, guys like Brett Stewart would be in gaol.

      More importantly yesterday a lady was given a suspended sentence for setting her husbands genitals on fire, and eventually killing him. She used the old I was abused for 20 years and snapped defence.

      Yet waiting until he slept, then setting him alight hardly sounds like snapping to me.  Maybe if one side of our judicial system becomes fairer more people might be outraged at incidents like this one.

      just my opinion!!

    • Sarah M says:

      08:58am | 15/04/11

      I agree, there are definitely double standards there. Everyone should be protected. But if we are talking about societal standards, I have never seen a woman paraded around as a hero for cheating on their husband and sleeping with over a thousand men…

    • KH says:

      09:20am | 15/04/11

      People releasing sex tapes of themselves clearly have no problem with people watching - in fact in most cases, they were performing - it wasn’t without their knowledge.  Obviously that is completely different to a situation where there is an expectation of privacy, and you are not aware of being recorded.  I can’t believe the distinction isn’t clear to you.

      Having been in a situation of sexual harassment, it became clear very quickly that despite doing nothing wrong, I was the one being punished - I got moved to another department ‘for my well being’ - what a load of BS - meanwhile the pervert continued in his normal job while they ‘investigated’ - I still don’t understand why he wasn’t moved,as he was the perpetrator.  In the end, I ended up resigning, and now sadly tell others to do the same and not bother complaining, because you will lose, even when you are proven correct.  That is what is wrong here-and other workplaces- the victim gets punished- in my case the guy got fired, but the damage to me was already done,as it is for this woman. So why not draw attention to it if it humiliates them into action?

    • Tony of Poorakistan says:

      09:47am | 15/04/11

      Sarah M
      I should hope not. How depraved.

      Blokes, on the other hand, are different. WEG

    • Markus says:

      09:52am | 15/04/11

      @KH, you lodged a complaint, they investigated, and fired the guy after confirming your complaint.
      Apart from perhaps you being moved rather than him (I assume it was done in that order to minimise impact on the whole work environment. Was he the higher up at the time?) I don’t see anything wrong with that process of events.

      Unless you are saying that he should have been punished based on your accusation alone, or that you being moved temporarily is somehow a bigger punishment than him being fired?

    • Bev says:

      10:05am | 15/04/11

      Err you got the story slighly wrong your thinking of another case (she got off too). Apparently while arguing he called her a “fat bitch” and turned his back then she lost it and threw accelerant over him followed by a candle.  The judge said “she had suffered enough”. The fact that he died a horrific and agonizing death didn’t seem to count.  A bunch of feminists were there cheering including Elisabeth Mcinnes who insists that a man threating or commiting sucide is guilty of DV and should be locked up in the former case though she doesn’t specify a punishement for the latter perhaps they should have their head chopped off and buried in unconsecrated ground as they did way back when. I would not put it past feminists. The same article said 3 women in 7 years had got off.  One women run her husband through will a samurai sword in front of the children she to “had suffered enough” too. Part of the DV ad message is “there is never an excuse for violence ever”  The government should add a disclaimer.  “This only applies to men, women can commit any violence they like up to and including murder”.

    • Rover of North Cooma says:

      10:22am | 15/04/11

      Markus, the issue is that the victim was moved and nothing happened to the harasser until after the investigation was complete, which sends the message to the victim and other people in her situation that she is being punished.

      Okay, he ended up losing his job, which shows that her complaint was vindicated. The fairest course of action would have been to move both of them to other departments while the investigation proceeded. Whether or not he was in a senior position is irrelevant - if someone, male or female, is a sexual harasser it doesn’t matter how good they are at their job, they’re breaking the law and deserve to be punished.

    • Swarley says:

      10:26am | 15/04/11

      “the victim gets punished-”

      I’m confused…they fired the guy, moved you to another department (probably to help distance you from all of the office gossip) and you see this as losing?

      What were you after, exactly?  If you were after further punishment, take it up as a criminal matter if a crime was committed. 

      You say the damage was already done…well, hate to break it to you, but your HR department probably didn’t have ready access to a time machine.  What are they supposed to do?!

      Life isn’t fair and you don’t always get treated well.  What makes a difference is how you handle it.  You decided to roll over and play the victim…how’s the working out?

      Bah!

    • Markus says:

      10:31am | 15/04/11

      @Bev,  I see no need for a disclaimer, when the “Violence against women, Australia says no” slogan already shows fairly blatantly what the government’s stance on DV is.

    • In My Opinion says:

      11:59am | 15/04/11

      @ KH - I’m sorry you went through that however my point is the same. Just because someone makes an allegation doesn’t make it correct. Brett Stewart was paraded in front of the media, banned from football and spent $300,000 in lawyers fees, because some ‘girl’ said he touched her.

      @ Sarah M - However you have seen women have affairs with married men and run to the press and sell their story. People like Tiger Woods have had to publicly apologise for extra marital affairs. Since when is it anyones business what goes on in a marriage and why does the man have to apologise?

      Statistics show that women commit far more instances of domestic violence than men, yet there is no campaign to say no to that, we are expected to suck it up as men, as the premise of women being weaker somehow excuses it.

      Again I would say when the law is equal on all sides, maybe I might get a bit more upset about cases like this.

      in my opinion.

    • Ando says:

      11:59am | 15/04/11

      Rover,
      The victim was not moved as punishment. No one would argue the principal of innocent until proven guilty , it was obviouisly a measure to minimize further impact on KH.
      If I was in the situation and didnt want to move , I would have stayed ,so I doubt she was forced.
      I understand that innocent until proven guilty has its downsides but this situation seems have been handled fine.

    • james milton says:

      12:27pm | 15/04/11

      More than 3 women have ‘gotten away’ with murdering their partners. Just a few weeks ago a woman had told her friends she would kill her partner, she tried twice, then the third time ended up succeeding by giving him a massive heroin overdose. She did a few short years in ‘jail’ (ask around what women’s prisons are like, where they fund everything to help the prisoners self-esteem) and now she has a scholarship and is writing a thesis on women killing their partners. This was all over the Australian news a few weeks ago, no protests, no people up in arms, nothing.

      Very sexist.

    • rajend naidu says:

      07:28am | 15/04/11

      if one outcome of this sordid sex filming scandal is to not attract more women into the armed forces then that is a positive outcome. there is already a lopsided emphasis on militarism and it’s not doing humanity any good. the earth’s resources should be put to more beneficial use . that does not include military expansionism

    • Paul Horn says:

      02:59pm | 15/04/11

      Yes rajend that’s exactly what they said after the First World War! The War to end all Wars!

      Allied defence funding was slashed. The British army was basically a shambles, her Air Force not much better and the Navy reliant on old Battleships though they were effective.

      Once the Germans got under way and invaded Western France and Belgium no one could hold them back! In fact pacifist gutlesness reigned in the pre war years hence the dire situation facing the Allies early in the war. The idiotic reasoning being of course that British pacifist diplomacy could bring Hitler to submission. What a tragic failure that turned out to be.

      Only one man realised what would happen as early as the 1920’s and his name was Winston Churchill. When every other politician wanted to parley with the Germans he and he alone stood against his coleagues gutless pacifist cowardice.

      Without him you’d be singing Deutchland, Deutchland Uber Alles or more likely part of a race wiped from the face of the Earth.

      Why don’t trendy lefties ever ever read their history? Out of a million pacifists it only takes one madman to plunge the world into sheer chaos!  Have a nice day!

    • BK says:

      07:48am | 15/04/11

      Much as I would like to believe that women will now avoid the armed services, experience tells me that the opposite is likely to be true.

    • michael j says:

      08:16am | 15/04/11

      I to worry about being filmed without my consent, usually when i am on my m/cycle doing a 130 kph past a speed camera,,,,,,

    • tren says:

      09:32am | 15/04/11

      but thats ok because you are wearing the rquivalent of a burqa

    • BK says:

      03:32pm | 15/04/11

      Maybe Michael should ride naked and sue anyone who photographs him.

    • Lee Enfield says:

      08:48am | 15/04/11

      Yet another article pushing the false facts peddled by Steven Smith. Read all the information, Steven Smith lied about the whole series of events.
      But don’t let the truth get in the way of your story.
      Here are Steven Smiths original claims:

      Steven Smith accused the ADF of not investigating the incident properly.
      The ADF conducted a quick investigation to determine the appropriate course of action.

      Steven Smith says he ordered a second investigation. The ADF ordered the second investigation based on the AFP advice and the quick investigation. This version has been confirmed by Steven Smiths office.

      Steven Smith said “Kate” was ordered to apologise. “Kate” was never ordered to apologise, this has been confirmed by Steven Smith.

      Steven Smith says defence was insensitive and it was inappropriate for her existing charges to be heard. “Kate” was offered the chance to have her charge hearing delayed. “Kate” elected to proceed with the hearing. This has been confirmed by Steven Smith.

      It has been a week since all the information has come to light, yet you have written an article revolving around the lies originally peddled by Steven Smith, this is just poor journalism.

      You have accused the ADF of letting this guy get away with a slap on the wrist. No charges have been laid because the investigation is on going, the good thing about not only military law, but Australian law, charges aren’t laid until all the evidence is in.

      So don’t let the truth get in the way of your story, if you did, you wouldn’t have a story.

    • Louis says:

      09:03am | 15/04/11

      Agree with you 100%. Spot on.

    • Tim says:

      12:24pm | 15/04/11

      “So don’t let the truth get in the way of your story, if you did, you wouldn’t have a story. “

      Wait a minute, Isn’t this the motto of the Australian media?
      Scandal sells far more papers.

    • Zaf says:

      10:40am | 15/04/11

      Not a slut, a tattle tale. 

      That’s why her career will be difficult, and that is teh rep that will follow her.

      She should have just gotten her mates to give the guy a swirly.

    • Roland says:

      11:03am | 15/04/11

      ‘But you can and should expect respect. Whatever happened to that?’

      Why exactly should one expect respect Rose? Respect is something that is earned over time- you can’t really expect to be respected by someone you’ve just met and decided to sleep with. To me, one night stands have always been about mutual dis-respect. Sexy, sexy dis-respect.

    • Bev says:

      11:51am | 15/04/11

      Right on target.

    • marley says:

      04:00pm | 15/04/11

      Well, I guess I ‘d say that the military code requires officers to respect and trust one another.  Secretly filming one having sex is hardly showing her respect or building trust, now is it?

    • Johnny Cash is a friend of mine says:

      11:08am | 15/04/11

      @ Lee Enfield: Good job of higlighting the serious factual errors in this puff piece from a so called ‘journalist’. It beggars belief that even although what you have raised is on the public record, it is continually and conveniently ignored by those sections of the media and the public who seem to have some anti-ADF axe to grind.

      Yes, what the male cadets did was reprehensible, and due process will ensure that the punishment will fit the crime. However, Rose Russo, muddying the waters a week after the incident in the attempt to drum up more ‘outrage’ is sloppy journalism and is in my opinion pathetic.

      And Stephen Smith: Good job at running interference for the PM and her abortion of a government. Six inquiries? C’mon man.

    • stephen says:

      11:11am | 15/04/11

      Don’t understand how yer balls can just catch fire like that, (assumin-a-course her actions weren’t premeditated).

      Used ter have a girlfriend once called ‘Old Sparky’.
      (Gulp.)

    • Marrick villian says:

      11:23am | 15/04/11

      It is like Julia and Bobby are the stars here and the Labor ministers are in the room next door helping relieve each other as Wilke Sieg Heils in suspenders

    • Jonesey says:

      11:25am | 15/04/11

      Thanks for your article Rose. As a person who was recently filmed without my consent while having sex, I’m glad you’ve bought this issue to light.

      Unless this has happened to you, you can’t feel the ongoing degree of embarrassment, mistrust, disrespect and anger. After ringing the Police I was told that because the filming took place in his home there was nothing they could do about it under criminal law, even though they agreed that what he did was wrong, and that my only alternative was to pursue the matter through civil law via a lawyer.

      I think timing is critical in this situation with a fair trial and punishment served quickly… it’s crucial that the punishment allocated sends a message loud and clear to other perverted would-be filmmakers.

      My message to others is to control the environment you’re in as much as is possible, i.e. go back to yours instead of his. Although you still won’t have any guarantees given our ease of access to technology, I’m sure it would have helped in my situation.

      If existing avenues to seek justice aren’t sufficient, then people will take justice into their own hands and I believe ‘Kate’ absolutely did the right thing by taking her story to the media.

      As Rose said, “The reality is that Australian law is failing to keep in step with the speed of technology”. This needs to be rectified.

      I’m hopeful to hear that the male cadet has been discharged & suffers the same degree of embarrassment that ‘Kate’ did to balance the scales.

      @Erick - you’re wrong. Making secret videos of sexual encounters is WRONG & can NEVER be justified.

    • Markus says:

      12:26pm | 15/04/11

      “My message to others is to control the environment you’re in as much as is possible, i.e. go back to yours instead of his”
      Or not sleep with someone if you aren’t sure you can trust them.
      That is advice just as applicable to guys (claiming they were ‘tricked’ into getting a one night stand pregnant etc).

    • Jonesey says:

      01:05pm | 15/04/11

      @Markus Trust is great in hindsight. And you can’t be ‘tricked’ if you wear a condom.

    • Rose Russo says:

      05:41pm | 15/04/11

      Thanks Jonesey.

      I’m sorry to hear about your ordeal. Since this incident came to light last week it has raised a lot of questions about sex and technology. And that is what I was trying to debate in my article.

      Yes, the ADFA was an example but this kind of behaviour happens to civilians too and should not be tolerated.

      You are right - making secret videos of sexual encounters is wrong and can never be justified.

      Women are after a good time too, we are free to explore our own sexuality just as men are. Filming the other person without their consent is pornography, and it’s just not right.

    • Bev says:

      06:07pm | 15/04/11

      @ Jonesey but make sure you flush it afterwards. In case she uses the contents to impregnate herself . Yes it has happened and yes the man is up for child support.

    • Jane says:

      12:13pm | 15/04/11

      Kate’s mistake is she took it to the media and not the police. What could ADFA do other than drag the boys in and give them a verbal going over when she didnt think it was worth reporting to the police as a crime?

      To me this is what is wrong with all these “cases” that have come out, none were reported to the police so none were “crimes” that could be properly punished.

      Everyone, the media should only be your port of call when and only when you attempts through police have failed.

      In this case, those boys will never recieve justice as “Kate” has ensured that any case against will be biased by the media coverage and the end result will probably be they lose their positions in ADFA but that is it, no criminal record.

    • BJA says:

      12:17pm | 15/04/11

      I’d have thought these young men have broken a law relating to the survellance devices act. If it turns out they haven’t they are total and utter grubs in any case.

    • Tim says:

      12:27pm | 15/04/11

      Obviously you haven’t been following the St Kilda schoolgirl case. Taking pictures and videos of people in your own home is completely legal.

    • Markus says:

      12:39pm | 15/04/11

      From what I have read so far, the issue here seems to be because the device in question was based inside his private residence.

      Plus I think the Surveillance Devices Act may only cover the legalities of the use of surveillance equipment by law enforcement officers.

    • Ben Dover says:

      01:16pm | 15/04/11

      If the Governments line is “To violence against women- Australia says no”
      Why are they allowing women to serve in the most violent occupations on the planet. A little hypocritical. I guess now that Gillard has said men and women are equal, and that men and women are the same, punching a woman is now no different to punching a man.

    • sam says:

      01:20pm | 15/04/11

      if you cant take photos and post them on the net without permission then you cant send live feed of some one . thats the word permission

    • TheRealDave says:

      03:08pm | 15/04/11

      I stopped reading at the usual refrain of ‘blame the victim’..

      WTF?!?

      Who exactly is blaming the victim??

      For the past bloody week EVERYONE has been saying the blokes should be punished and possibly punted from ADFA. All of them. Or at the very least the bloke who set it all up and filmed it gets punted and the watchers get their bollocks torn and punished inhouse. No ifs and or buts about it.

      But, the ‘victim’ also needs to face the consequences of her actions that violated more than a few military and ADFA rules as well.

      Jeez, its not bloody rocket science.

    • marleyt says:

      03:57pm | 15/04/11

      Who’s blaming the victim?  Read Bob Ellis over on the Drum.

    • No credibility says:

      03:17pm | 15/04/11

      Rose Russo, hand in your typewriter; you Ma’am, are an abomination to journalism. It is the 15th of April and yet you have presented highly inaccurate information that was disproved days ago. No wonder people are turning from modern journalism, there is no credibility left in the industry.

    • Rose Russo says:

      05:47pm | 15/04/11

      Unfortunately, I don’t own a typewriter… this is the 21st century after all wink

    • mike j says:

      06:24pm | 15/04/11

      “I think it left the building around the same time iPhones turned up and started to run the show.”

      No, you didn’t. You walked right into that Apple store and started a tab, didn’t you. In fact, it kind of sounds like you moved in and never left.

      “laptops are closed and iPhones are completely out of reach”
      “But these days Apple have made it part of our everyday life.”
      “Even the MacBooks have a tiny camera at the top of the screen”

      I normally accuse people like you of being on Apple’s payroll, but I’m feeling the cut of Hanlon’s razor, here. Another hardcore brainwashed Apple clone who bought an iPod one day and ended up with an Apple pacemaker.

      I don’t know which is worse.

    • Thomas Anderson says:

      02:26am | 16/04/11

      If the video is so shameful and degrading to her, why go public and let the whole country know?

    • Rose Russo says:

      10:17am | 16/04/11

      Good point Thomas, I didn’t think of that. I believe she went public because she felt that what happened to her wouldn’t be thoroughly investigated within the ADFA.

      The reason she is being vilified now is because she should have let the military investigation take its course and exhausted all her options before she approached the media. I don’t necessarily disagree that she should have followed protocol but I don’t have a lot of faith that it would’ve been investigated thoroughly. And obviously never did she.

      I guess we’ll never know.

    • Markus says:

      02:39pm | 16/04/11

      She only knew about the incident after she was approached as part of the investigation. Surely the fact that they knew about it before she did would add a fair bit of faith that they are doing their job?

    • Ray says:

      12:48pm | 16/04/11

      Talk about ‘blokey’ culture. Well the whole of society is a ‘sheilary’ culture.

      I’m buggered if I know, ‘Kate’s” other misdemeanors should be put on hold Why?

      They are independent to the emotionally charged reaction to the video incident.  Drunkenness,  AWOL and now sexual fraternisation. Why put in abeyance. That would not happen in matters of civil actions.

      I’m thoroughly sick of women with their ‘hollier than thou’ bail out position when their track record actions are at least as bad as men, without the public condemnation default button. that is attendent to any male transgressions.

      Fly the ‘innocent white female flag’ at any and every opportunity for self cleansing or monetry gain.

      If you ever worked in Defence in recent times you would know that affirmative action is rampant, jobs are quarantined to facilitate accelerated promotion for women, and women only workshops and mentoring are available on a recidivist basis.

      I f you are affable enough to make a comment able to be twisted to suit a harrassment claim, well you have let your guard down.

      If you have worked their for 25 years as I have you will know as a male you have to achieve and compete for promotion all while you feel unwelcome in your own workplace because of a littany of the aforesaid biases supplemented by a further littany of regulations, public notices, and emblazoned literature, all promoting the female cause and threatening retribution to non conformists.

      Check it out. You’ll confirm all I have said.

      This matter is an emotional reaction to facilitate opportunism to attack an organisation seen as a male bastion, which indeed suffers from female subderfuse.

      Remember the deaths of the 102,000 + men who sacrificed their lives in the great wars to provide the enhanced lives we lead. That is not to forget the many who have sacrificed themselves in other conflicts since.

      No, just blast ahead with self centred claims for advanced privelege at the expense of the very males that provide it to you.

    • marley says:

      02:01pm | 16/04/11

      @Ray - this is a situation in which one offender, the female,  has committed minor offences(fraternization, drunkenness), and the other has committed both a minor offence (fraternization) and a major one (videoing the sexual encounter) which traumatized the girl. 

      Any competent manager would deal with the more serious offender as a priority, and leave the minor charges against the lesser offender until she had had a chance to recover from the trauma.  That’s what effective and responsible management is about.  And it has nothing to do with the gender of the two participants, but only with the seriousness of their respective offences.

      So, to my mind, the issue isn’t that the girl is being given a break because of her sex; it’s that the management of the process was poor.  And I’d say exactly the same thing if the genders had been reversed.

    • Ray says:

      03:32pm | 16/04/11

      Marley, we’re getting to petty argument, but her earlier indiscretions or misdemeanors (drunkenness and AWOL - which you conveniently omitted) pre-dated and were seperate from the matter of the headlines. No need or obligation to be put on hold. In fact there is more likely an obligation to proceed as intended. The male alleged offences were all part of the seperate incident including the fraternisation..

      If you take it to the extreme, just continue making offences whenever an old one is due and you never see the light of day in court military or otherwise.

      You are missing my main thrust that of the existing over the top affirmative action, the impact on male employees subject to exclusion, and above all the seizing of an opportunity to peddle some agenda which is flys under the banner of ‘equality’ so is untouchable.

      My other point was the fortuitous convenience of the ‘pure as the driven snow’ mentality invoked at convenience to recover lost sanctity of self respect or guilt. Women just remain unaccountable in a totally tainted social misrepresentation that sees men as the purveyors of all miscreant behaviour and women as the beyond reproach benfeciaries.

      Above all, women get a rails run in this discredited philosophy to which society is ransomed.

    • marley says:

      07:57pm | 16/04/11

      No Ray, you’re missing my point.  Entirely.  My point was about managing the situation, and the failure to adequately do so. 

      You have one person facing disciplinary charges within the military code for offences against military discipline, and of course she should have to answer for those.  But you have another person facing charges not only against military discipline (fraternization) but also potentially against the criminal code.  No manager would address the minor charges before dealing with the major ones.  At least no competent manager would do so. 

      If you think otherwise, well, I can only disagree in the strongest possible terms. One of the keys to effective management is understanding which decisions are important, and which are urgent, and which are simply easy.  It’s easy to penalize the girl right away for her violations of the military code - but, given the serious nature of the offence against her - it’s the wrong decision.  Focus on the important decision - what to do with the guy or guys - and let the other decisions wait till that’s been resolved. 

      And anyway, do you seriously think that the bloke in this case is likely to become a good officer?  A guy who has no respect for his fellow cadets, is willing to subject them to humiliation, is willing to betray their trust in him so he and his buddies can have a few giggles? 

      I don’t give a damn about the gender of the people involved. I do give a damn about officers respecting one another, trusting one another, and being able to trust one another. And I don’t see how anyone could ever trust the male in this case. 

      That’s not to say the woman gets a free ride either.  She’s made some pretty bad decisions, and probably isn’t suited to a career requiring discipline.  But she hasn’t committed any criminal offences and I suspect he’s damn close to having done so.

    • Ray says:

      09:58pm | 16/04/11

      Whoa take it easy Marley. In your haste to muddy the waters you have not acknowledged that the drunkenness and AWOL by the now famous Kate were seperate pre standing incidents on pre satanding dates . Not within the incident subject of the guys and her tawdry action on the video night.

      I thought the mangement was spot on. The seperate incidents are quarantined. Houston stands by his ADFA Commander while Smith succumbs to political expediency in favour of satisfying media interference and hangs the ADFA Comander out to dry.

      You seem to decree yourself an expert on management.

      Well despite your protestations you have aptly demonstrated women’s misunderstanding of mangement and dare I say leadership.

      Address the tawdry issue with due process, investigate properly. then makew a decision.

      In this case don’t be hoodwinked by the feminist driven obsession to discredit all and or any male intitution. Drawing other bows to fit the episdode of one night is a demonstration in not being able to compartmentalise, quantify or prioritise seperate issues.

      There is a constant in all these type of issues which reflects a protected species equally complicit but devoid of responsibility or accountability. Apart from that Defence has lost its momentum and status through the gender cleansing process underway, unabated, and underwhelmed by a lust to appease gender politics.

      I won’t go into combat units only being as strong as their weakest link. Not to mention the lives of others in the combat unit compromised by the weak link.

    • marley says:

      08:24am | 17/04/11

      @Ray - well, Ray, if you think the situation was well managed, explain why it blew up in the face of the military?  Could it possibly be because they didn’t manage their young female cadet well?  Umm, that would be a yes.  I judge the competence of management by outcomes, and this one is a textbook case of things going wrong.

      And you describe the girl’s actions as “tawdry.”  How exactly do you describe the boy"s?  Or his mates?  Where I come from, the word “tawdry” doesn’t cover what they did; the word “criminal” does.  And if its your view that dealing with misdemeanour offences should take precedence over dealing with criminal offences, well, all I can say is, it’s not mine.  Nor do I believe that any competent manager would take that stance.

    • Allison Warhol says:

      12:53am | 17/04/11

      ““In the future everyone will be a pornstar for 15 minutes”’. - Allison Warhol
      This whole situation reeks of frat club, and Kate was clearly the victim, and this story is one that needed to be told, and made an example of. This kind of frat behavior happens ALL THE TIME in the real world, and it’s time someone took a stand on it, or at least drew attention to it, before we all become unwilling pornstars.
      With all the emerging technologies of the last 10 years its getting worse. By the time Generation Z are adults there will be an extensive media/online dossier on their history, sexual and otherwise. These days anyone with any kind of social ties can’t go on a date without each one of their 300+ facebook friends as a fly on the wall.
      Murdoch’s phone tapping scandal is a ‘‘prime’’ (scuse the pun) example of how little privacy we have.
      Kate is very brave for following through on what must have been an immense amount of pressure from the military and government, and media.

    • NR says:

      08:43am | 17/04/11

      “Being filmed without my consent”??? happens all day every day,look at CCTV cameras everywhere!

 

Facebook Recommendations

Read all about it

Punch live

Up to the minute Twitter chatter

Daniel Piotrowski

The Logies could learn a lot from Eurovision #lamethings#sbseurovision

Daniel Piotrowski

RT @ellehardytweets: Already despondent about the next fifty one weeks. #sbseurovision

Daniel Piotrowski

@BellaBoogaloo By far the world's most ridiculous continent.

Daniel Piotrowski

They should have this every week. #sbseurovision

Recent posts

The latest and greatest

Abbott’s crass logic: trash the Parliament in order save it

Abbott’s crass logic: trash the Parliament in order save it

An email was sent to almost every politician in Australia this week saying that someone should cut off…

Our special forces don’t always need special treatment

Our special forces don’t always need special treatment

We admire them, but we’re not entirely sure why. We allow them to operate in the shadows; we rarely…

A good holiday is about unrest, not rest

A good holiday is about unrest, not rest

Like a fat full-stop, it lay in my hand. A small orange – not exactly fresh, but purchased anyway…

Nosebleed Section

choice ringside rantings

From: They must pay for one’s bitter disappointments

Michael S says:

"A teacher at Geelong Grammar had criticised her for using words that were too long, which had left her confused and had made her doubt her ability to write essays. She became ''quite distressed'' when her English marks began to fall." I can sympathise. My scholastic mentors conveyed to me a causal relationship… [read more]

From: Welfare for breeders is a bonus for everyone

Change Up! says:

I have no problem paying my taxes. As a single, childless person on a very decent income, I can afford it and not have my life severely altered. Plus I understand that my taxes paying for things like schools, childcare and infrastructure is ultimately a good thing. A better community is better for me… [read more]

Gentle jabs to the ribs

They must pay for one’s bitter disappointments

They must pay for one’s bitter disappointments

A private school girl’s family is sueing her elite, extremely expensive private school for not… Read more

243 comments

Newsletter

Read all about it

Sign up to the free daily Punch newsletter