Family Planning (NSW) plans to offer older women safe sex packs containing a condom, lube and instructions on how to use condoms. The new sex health campaign is aimed squarely at women because sexually transmitted infections are becoming more prevalent in women aged over 50. A campaign for men will follow in due course.


Popular magazines would have you believe that young people invented sex. The trouble is, they also think they have a monopoly on all of the action too.

The reality is that ageing is not a cause for lack of sex life and older people are busier than ever in the bedroom.

A series of recent research reports indicate that the majority of older adults are highly sexual and regularly so.

An independent market researcher recently interviewed 659 women across Australia. This study revealed that older Australian women are having more sex than younger women. It seems the real sexual adventure begins when children are older or have left home and women have the confidence and experience to enjoy sex more than ever before.

In Queensland a women’s hospital released results of a research project that began in 2001. There were 500 women interviewed with 125 in each age group 40-70.

One finding of that research concluded that 27 per cent of women over 70 remained sexually active and an equal percentage of their male partners were capable of sexual intercourse.

Addressing sexuality is now an important factor in the promotion of good mental and physical health in older Australians.

Older single, divorced and widowed women and men are increasingly using online dating websites and chat rooms to find a partner. One prominent dating website’s research indicates 40 per cent of women aged over 40 were as likely as younger women to have met someone online in the previous year.

The resulting liaisons are seen as contributing to increased sexually transmitted infections because older Australians are considered outside the condom generation and do not link condoms to sex beyond the need for contraception. Older Australians having unsafe sex are at a growing risk of contracting sexual infections more commonly associated with teenagers and young adults.  Research from the NSW University of New England illustrates that the rate of sexually transmitted diseases among people aged 50 and over is rising.

Family Planning (NSW) is convinced that campaigns for condom use by older Australians will need to show people how to use them.

Statistics about Queensland from the Australian Bureau of Statistics at June 2010 typifys the challenge facing health professionals on this issue.  There are over half a million Queenslanders aged 65 years or older. As Queenslanders are living actively for longer, the chances are that they will also have active sexual relationships later in life. The quality of sex may also have improved through the use of sex-related medicines like Viagra.

National Seniors Australia chief executive Michael O’Neil agrees it is time to start talking to older Australians about sex and stop pigeon-holing seniors as people who lacked active sex lives and desires.

Any older Australians planning to get frisky with a partner should adopt the slogan previously aimed at young people. Insist “if it is not on it’s not on” before following the slogan of another well-known sporting goods manufacturer and “Just Do It!”

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    • Suzanne says:

      07:07am | 08/10/12

      Yes, lubricant sales are booming I hear since 50 Shades of Grey, so are some other items!!  Companies like Astroglide are booming.

    • Huey says:

      07:11am | 08/10/12

      Bad enough coming to terms with Mum and Dad..now Nanna and Pop!...Yuk.

    • bael says:

      07:18am | 08/10/12

      This includes lesbians and gay old people Ian.

    • PW says:

      07:32am | 08/10/12

      What is it they say about women over 50…..they don’t yell, they don’t tell, they don’t swell and they’re as toey as hell.

      It’s one of the greatest jokes played by God on the human race….males are at their friskiest at about 18 and women at about 50.

    • Mouse says:

      07:58am | 08/10/12

      Well, men reach their sexual peak at 18, women reach theirs at 65, so I have been told and have no reason to disbelive it.
      I suppose that’s why older women like younger men, they are eager for the experience and easily trained.
      **covers head waiting for the backlash!!!**  LMAO ;o)

    • Chris L says:

      08:56am | 08/10/12

      This is why at least two couples I know of have the situation where the wife is desperate for a shag and the husband is laughing and saying “Remember when we were teenagers and you kept saying no?”

      I know when I was a teenaged school student I would have been delighted to learn the ropes from my thirty something chemistry teacher.

    • Mouse says:

      09:25am | 08/10/12

      LOL, ain’t it just always the way!
      Never mind ChrisL, we women folk will just keep getting better’n'better and by the time you are old enough to appreciate it, you would have run out of choof!  Stay young, my friend, stay forever young!!  lol ;o)

    • Scotchfinger says:

      09:34am | 08/10/12

      in my early 20s I had some sort of ‘relationship’ with a woman in her early 40s. Wow, what a time! I never had that sort of, ahem, experience with girls my own age, who were more like prison wardens handing out rations, if you know what I mean. Now I’m getting all sentimental…

    • Mouse says:

      10:38am | 08/10/12

      Scotchie, I think the difference with older women is that they no longer have anything to prove, are comfortable within their bodies and are at the stage when they just want to enjoy one of life’s simple pleasures.  The whole experience is enriched with giving as well as receiving and that both can share it.  :o)

      I reckon it’s great too that it’s free and the government haven’t yet found a way to tax it…...yet! (sorry, couldn’t help myself!!) LOL :oD

    • Scotchfinger says:

      12:52pm | 08/10/12

      ‘it’s great too that it’s free’. Sshh Mouse, the Mens Rights boys will hear you! ‘Men pay dearly for sex…blah blah blah…’ right Tubesteak? pfft.

    • Reg Whiteman says:

      08:08am | 08/10/12

      Being in my early 60s I’m glad that I no longer have the slightest interest in sex. I go out with a number of women around my own age and have noticed in the past that they seem to have fairly active libidos. It’s amazing just how many over 55 old boilers there are out there who are more than happy to make the beast with two back on the first date. Generally, the thought of them being in the nude is enough to extract any fizz from my remaining hormones - which confirms that my choosing a celibate life was the right decision.

      Really, sex in old age is quite disgusting. A couple of times I have had a few too many schooners and succumbed as they seem to get a decade younger with each schooner after the fourth. But invariably, half way through the job I’ve thought to myself, “I’d rather be reading a book”. I chose the celibate life about two years ago and have never been happier. I always make it clear that I’m not interested so they needn’t bother with any re-enactments of their 20s.

      The thing that really convinced me to give the whole show away was when I re-met on Facebook my first girlfriend from nearly 50 years ago.  She invited me to come and stay with her for a week, which was fine. I don’t know what I expected, some reflection of what she’d been at 15 I guess, but what I got was from the more bizarre end of “The Twilight Zone”. It seems that, over the years, she’d developed something of a “fantasy fetish” and liked to dress-up in various outfits complete with wigs and accoutrements. There was: the precocious schoolgirl; the French maid; Sister Angelica; Madam Lash as well as a number of others I, thankfully, didn’t get to see. To see this 60 year-old woman dressed up in a long blonde wig and tarty schoolgirl uniform was … well I just burst out laughing. I didn’t last the week and drove all the way home alternating between sadness and rib-cracking laughter.

      The odd thing is: this particular woman is a retired medical professional, very well spoken and quite cultured. We did have a couple of good nights out at shows and restaurants; discussed the musical works of Verdi and the literary works of Thomas Hardy – but the “home entertainment” really was from the Theatre of the Absurd.

      Celibacy is a much better choice.

    • Mouse says:

      09:29am | 08/10/12

      hahahahaha, now I understand why you are such a miserable old bastard!!  lol ;o)
      **said with tongue firmly in cheek**

    • Scotchfinger says:

      09:39am | 08/10/12

      so ask them to keep their clothes on (well, most of them). There, I’ve just solved your problem for you Reg. Ain’t the Punch great?

    • Chris L says:

      10:12am | 08/10/12

      You could compromise Reg. You could “read” a Playboy, and then you’d probably be in a better frame of mind for performing the “husbandly” duties.

      Too many quotation marks?

    • amy says:

      12:42pm | 08/10/12

      ok….brace yourself

      people have sex…

      and…

      people are into all kinds of things other than vanilla…AND THATS OK

      is your head hurting now?

    • Reg Whiteman says:

      01:29pm | 08/10/12

      Thanks for the advice - not. I’ve always considered the sex act to be the most over-rated of all human activities and no recent experiences have changed that considered view.

      There is a time in one’s life when one may have a legitimate interest in the copulative act and derive some fleeting pleasure from it; but by the age of 50 one should be able to stow away one’s tackle and not be constantly confronted by exhortations to engage in depraved acts.

      One should grow old with a bit of dignity and not have one’s face rubbed in sex at every turn.

      I wonder if you people, extolling the disgraceful sexual practices common these days, have considered just how many germs are located in the mouth and in the vicinity of the genital-urinary-anal area. The human mouth has more colonies of bacteria, moulds, viruses and parasitic ova than the average Calcutta sewer. Think about that next time you want to experiment with some flavour other than “vanilla”.

    • Chris L says:

      02:11pm | 08/10/12

      To each their own Reg ol’ boy. You are celebate by choice, whereas some of us have celibacy thrust upon us.

      You’re right about it being a very undignified, which is another reason why I think it’s best handled by professionals.

    • Scotchfinger says:

      02:23pm | 08/10/12

      gee Reg, sounds like you have had some unfortunate experiences. Remember, a shower (with soap) can do wonders for attractiveness. During the act (if you still perform it), try not to think about microbiology, and instead concentrate on how much fun it is. If you can’t, perhaps it’s just as well you are celibate, because I guarantee the woman is having about as much fun as you are.

    • SydneyGirl says:

      03:04pm | 08/10/12

      I want to see a movie of Reg’s encounter with this medical professional, the later played by Isabelle Huppert.

      Huppert’s perversity is one of few kinds of perversity I enjoy.

      PS: Reg W’s comment solved the mystery of why ladies of a certain age so ravenously….....consume 50 Shades and its ilk. 

      PS: Where is Tubesteak, his prowess at 60+ is well documented here!

    • Mouse says:

      03:32pm | 08/10/12

      Reggie, sweetie, come here and sit down,
      *takes Reggie’s hand in hers**
      Honestly, if you’d rather be reading a book, maybe..just maybe.. you are not doing it right then!  :o/
      Scotchie, shower…soap…now ya talking!! LOL ;o)
      Sydney girl, I’ll come with you to watch that one! LOL :o)
      Oh ChrisL, what can I say to that? *slowly shaking head*  :o\ Maybe “husbandly” should be thrown out the door and he should become a lustful brigand, throw her over his shoulder and ravish her outside under the moonlight!  Slowly mind you, remembering old bones…....nah, go for it,  it will be something they will talk about in the Emerg department for weeks!  lol   ;o)

    • amy says:

      03:37pm | 08/10/12

      @Reg Whiteman

      oh reg you hipster…..

      the arrogant kind that looks down on otehrs through some seriously warped Idea of morality, who feels you have the right to dictate what others do and that “your way” is the right way

      I pity you

    • Admiral Ackbar says:

      03:40pm | 08/10/12

      amy I don’t think that was entirely the point. I think Reg was more concerned with the fact that she was, as the great Poet Lil Wayne put it an ‘old bitch’.

      Reg you sure have a way with words, I especially liked this: ‘But invariably, half way through the job I’ve thought to myself, “I’d rather be reading a book”.’

      Classic, and really, who hasn’t been halfway through at least once and thought something similar, regardless of age. There’s been an occasion or two where all I could think about was going home, rubbing one out and playing some Halo. Clearly, there are more important things in life than doin’ it big willie style (may be a euphemism for sex and/ or a Will Smith lyric, feel free to correct) such as what things Master Chief gets to shoot in the face in the next level, or whether or not you have the required item level for an upcoming raid.

      Love your work Reg.

    • the cynic says:

      04:48pm | 08/10/12

      Reg you crack me up….Yep, agree somewhat about the oldie factors you mention but you have it all wrong mate! reverse the roles. Me ,I’m 66 and the wife 31 been together for 7 years and I can assure you that it beats the crap out of grappling with a beached whale in the dead of night. Asian women look after you and themselves.  And that line you wrote that “One should grow old with a bit of dignity and not have one’s face rubbed in sex at every turn.”  Bloody hell there are times when I refuse to wash my face for days and days ( if you get the drift) and I have never come down with some dreaded lergy. You are better of with a newer younger model, preferably not from the local tribe, there are definite benefits for crossing ethnic borders.

    • gobsmack says:

      10:10am | 08/10/12

      I had to wait till after breakfast before reading this article.

      I would expect there has been a corresponding increase in back injuries and hip dislocations.

    • seniorcynic says:

      10:29am | 08/10/12

      I remember Andrew Denton once interviewed a prostitute on “Enough Rope” and she described how she fitted condoms with her mouth and he wouldn’t let her demonstrate with a banana. Will this be part of the education program?

    • che says:

      11:44am | 08/10/12

      Yes it’s true. My parents’ house has very thin walls. Good for them, but some things can never be unheard.

    • Scotchfinger says:

      02:28pm | 08/10/12

      have you never had a man over under their roof? I’m sure they have similar feelings about those thin walls…

    • che says:

      02:56pm | 08/10/12

      Good point I suppose. Although that first sentence took a couple of reads before it made sense and didn’t make me giggle.

    • centurion48 says:

      02:01pm | 08/10/12

      Interesting that the survey was for women only. I would guess that the result would be quite different with a survey of men. I’m with Reg on this one. Sex is what you do when you can no longer run, cycle, swim, walk or play golf. Even lawn bowlers probably only get interested on days when bowls is rained out and the bar in the clubhouse is not open.
      The thought of a couple of old fat people rutting (aka ‘The Congress of the Buffalo’) is not appealing in the slightest. Eewwwww!!

    • marley says:

      02:17pm | 08/10/12

      @centurion - depends on whether you’re one of the fat people, now doesn’t it?

    • SydneyGirl says:

      03:57pm | 08/10/12

      I don’t know.

      If someone leaked a sex tape of two old fat people getting it on fabulously I guarantee it will be a viral hit.  A change from Paris texting or Reg reading a book or the Admiral playing Master Chief when doing it don’t you think?!

      PS: What I am gobsmacked about is that so many men here are disproving that much bandied about theory that men are on earth solely to spread their seed far and wide right into old age!!

 

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