Want to get things done at home? Stop sharing the load
Screw equality. Forget men and women both trying to do a bit of the cleaning and child-rearing and maintenance and whatever else.
If you really want to make sure your household is both a perfectly oiled and well-balanced clean machine, then stop sharing and start to specialise in the jobs you do at home.
A strict delineation of domestic duties will ensure each task is done by the best person for the job and avoid any unnecessary and stressful double-up that comes from both of you trying to “share”.
Interestingly, it seems homosexual couples are more likely to get the mix right. Jennifer Powers, a research fellow at La Trobe University alluded to this the other day, and as fate would have it, I saw the effect myself.
Just last weekend I was at a dinner party where three of the four couples were in gay relationships.
All three couples are in stable, long-term relationships and in each case their domestic tasks are separated, not shared.
For example, at the beginning of the evening I had remarked on the wine glasses we were using – champagne flutes with unusually square stems.
Where did you get them?, I asked my friend, who had just sat down after spending an hour or so in the kitchen preparing dinner.
“I have no idea, I’m not allowed to buy anything for the house,” he said with a smile.
“That’s Mike*’s area. He does the house arranging and I just stick to cooking.”
In both respects they are each doing an enviably perfect job.
Their house positively gleams with cleanliness and order and the food and wine you enjoy as a guest in their company is scrumptious. They’re also clever, witty, great company and successful in their careers to boot.
Maybe that’s a tad gushy - but my point is they’ve achieved a harmonious way of living by sticking to allotted tasks.
And it’s not hard to figure out why.
Instead of falling over each other’s feet while attempting to double up on the same tasks each day, they’ve decide to compromise. You do this, I do that.
So regardless of sexual preference or gender, maybe it’s time to draw up a list of the things you each prefer to do, (or do better than the other) and stick to that.
*Real names have been changed to protect the innocent.
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