Who dresses their age anymore? A question on my fashion website last week…

Elle: fabulous in a mini on the wrong side of 40

“Dear Nedahl, I was just looking at Kylie in a mini. Is the mini appropriate for all women over 40 or only those who are pop stars/actors? As a 41 year old I’ve been wondering about this for a while. Christina.”

Personally, I think the whole issue of dressing age appropriately is past its use by date, but I’m sure others disagree. With a phrase like mutton dressed as lamb part of everyday vernacular, and a quick google search revealing a click through that said “see Gretel Killeen from Australia’s Big Brother” as their example, it’s fairly clear that people still believe in dressing for one’s age.

And I do too, to a point. I don’t want to see my gran in an Herve Leger bandage dress anytime soon for example. But if 30 is the new 20, 40 the new 30 and 50 the new 40, where do mini-skirts fit in?

Sarah Jessica Parker, she of the tiny-short-wearing-character Carrie Bradshaw who famously donned anything she damn well pleased from tutus to 7 foot trains in Sex and the City, uttered a few years ago that she “can’t wear short shorts anymore. I’m over 40 and a mum.”

Really SJP? I think that’s a little sad, especially remembering her great legs. Should a number determine when you should stop showing them off, particularly when we live in an age where we’re sold the concept of “young” in everything from face creams to new cars?
Elle Macpherson wears a mini so fabulously it’d be a horrible shame for the general public if she stopped. Someone like Janice Dickinson on the other hand, who’s 54 (isn’t it funny that all her plastic surgery made me think she was older than that) could perhaps put those legs away for once. But it’s all in the eye of the beholder.

Blanket rules for everyone in society just don’t work anymore. They’re far too generalizing and antiquated if you ask me. Isn’t it all about how you feel and the image you want to project?

Consider the uproar when Michelle Obama bared her arms in the Presidential race.

Michelle Obama adresses a Time Magazine function ealier this year.

Are bare arms appropriate for a 45-year-old mother-of-two gunning for the White House? Not to a lot of critics who at first took her down … and then spent the next six months dissecting her exercise routine. The image she’s projecting? Strong. Smart. In complete control. Her well-toned arms perfectly represent a woman who knows exactly what she’s doing and the only factor that has to do with her age is the “wow” factor.


Then there’s the always lovely Michelle Pfeiffer who’s effortlessly stylish at 51, and manages to squeeze style into every outfit despite being years past a designer’s traditional target market.


Michelle Pfeiffer at the BAFTAS

Her image? Blonde bombshell, aging gracefully. You could never accuse her of being mutton.

Sheryl Crow on the other hand, in her trademark tight leather pants? Look, I get that she’s been wearing them for years and she’s in the music industry and they’re her “thing”. Rather than it being an age issue (she’s 46), it’s more of a question of how she looks in the pants. Not that she’s too old to wear leather – just that she mightn’t rock them the way she once would have ten or twenty years ago. The image she projects? Someone’s trying to hang onto their youth.
And that’s the risk. When you continue to dress as you did in your 20’s or 30’s (Cher, anyone?) and overdo it, the tongues will start a-wagging and the gossip rags will come a-hunting.

My favourite chameleon Kylie Minogue, now 41, is one celebrity who always gets it right.

She hits on the perfect mix of playful and sexy but never steps over that age appropriate line – we won’t ever again see her in those heartstopping gold hotpants she wore for Spinning Around and nor should we, they’re well beyond their use-by date. But she looks just as stylish and sticks to fashion in a way that suits her best. Ankle boots, fun dresses and all.

Our Kyles, who turned 40 this year.
 
So the answer, Christina? Wear a mini if it makes you feel good, if you can get away with it, and as long as the next step isn’t investing in a convertible Porsche and landing a 25-year-old boyfriend to go with it.

Then again … look at Demi Moore! 

Read more about celebrity fashion on Nedahl’s Daily Blog at http://www.CocoLee.com.au

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    • Kerry Heaney says:

      07:20am | 23/07/09

      Does it look good, does it feel good and is it appropriate for the occasion are the first questions one should ask. I constantly see women of all ages browsing racks in shops targeted towards younger buyers and choosing items to add difference to their wardrobe. People will criticise you for anything. If you can wear it, enjoy it and damn the critics!

    • Sandra says:

      08:12am | 23/07/09

      It’s not the age appropriateness that’s the issue; it’s the body shape and occasion that determines your wardrobe. 
      Young and old girls carry too much weight should not wear skimpy clothes, but clothes that show off their assets - no matter the body shape, we have one or 2 assets to show off - so go for it.

    • Tempril says:

      08:19am | 23/07/09

      If you arn’t so big as to make someone run out of petrol when they swerve to miss you, or have smaller people orbit you when you go out.  If you look good naked and other people agree, you can wear clothes younger than your age.  Remember “The Nutty Professor” with Eddie Murphy, think of that movie when you buy clothes.
      But hey, enjoy the body you are in

    • Anton says:

      08:24am | 23/07/09

      i hate the term “mutton dressed as lamb” ... life’s too short for people to dictate what you wear.  when i’m 80 i’m going to dress like johnny rotten, smoke big cigars and have a mohawk.

    • James says:

      09:04am | 23/07/09

      The term mutton dressed as lamb definitely still has its place. Unless you look like Elle McPherson over 40 definitely dress age appropriate. Anyone woman over 45 should scale the mini-skirts and low tops back completely. The big problem is most women just don’t realise that they no longer look good in these outfits and it is nearly cringe worthy.

      You can still dress alluring over 45 years old but tone done on showing flesh.

    • Marion says:

      09:15am | 23/07/09

      I see young overweight girls walking around with tight short clothes and low tight tops with badly fitted push up bras on and they look ridiculous.
      Who says a woman in her mid 40’s can’t dress in fashionable clothes, even shorter tight skirts?  I understand the mutton dressed as lamb theory and they are out there - you just have to do it with style. Well that’s what I hope I do at 45!

    • Frank MacGill says:

      09:20am | 23/07/09

      Age doesn’t matter directly.  What matters is desirability up close.  It is relatively straight forward for a woman of any age with a nice body to look desirable from 10 meters away.  But unless the desirability persists at 2 meters, sexy clothes will yield disappointment and even revulsion.

    • Sabrina says:

      09:51am | 23/07/09

      As long as you have the figure for it and dress right for the occassion, then so be it.  Life is too short and there are plenty of young girls out there that shouldn’t be wearing what they wear..!

    • tandah says:

      10:17am | 23/07/09

      I think Elle often looks heaps better than she does in this dress - I think it screams ‘try hard’ ... this isn’t a great example of someone looking fabulous in a mini who’s over 40.

    • Nora Charles says:

      10:23am | 23/07/09

      Kerry Heaney and other commenters are quite right. It’s whether you can carry the look off or not. 

      My only cavaet is that women who are 40 plus should look classy and not trashy - their look should have sophistication and polish. Most teenagers and women in their 20s dress awfully but still carry it because of their youth.

      But at 40, if you can look good in a bandage dress or a bikini, then go for it, but make sure the cut, the fabric and the colour are flattering - look like you know what you’re doing and not look like you’ve just raided Supre as part of your midlife crisis.

    • jazzy says:

      10:32am | 23/07/09

      i saw the original photo of elle in that outfit, and it was NOT pretty. The airbrushed one makes her legs look good. Time for a reality check.

    • Charles says:

      10:55am | 23/07/09

      Wel, there certainly seems to be a theme running through this: not so much age appropriate, but appropriate for the ‘condition’ of the body on which it is being worn.

      Heck, if middle-aged men can drive Porches etc to feel good then let middle-aged women (or men) wear whatever they want that makes them feel good. If the onlooker doesn’t think it appropriate then that’s their opinion and they can - politely - keep it to themselves.

    • Mike says:

      11:02am | 23/07/09

      As far as I’m concerned if you look good in it, wear it. However if you don’t, put it back in the closet. This applies for all ages, I hope you muffin tops are listening.

    • OC says:

      11:44am | 23/07/09

      Given that the female Gen Ys and younger seem to cheerfully flaunt their flabby apple-shaped torsos in the shopping malls and CBD pedestrian precincts across this ever widening brown land, then the sight of toned and terrific Gen X women in li’l dresses will be a welcome respite.

    • Jo Ryan says:

      11:47am | 23/07/09

      All you need is a couple of teenagers around to tell you the truth whether what you are wearing makes you look like a MILF or whether you look ‘‘chat’‘.  Believe me they will give their open, honest opinion even if it isn’t really wanted.

    • Ben Payne says:

      12:37pm | 23/07/09

      The whole concept of ‘fashion’ is designed solely to get people to buy shit that they don’t need, at prices they can’t afford, by crushing their self-esteem and self-worth in comparison with impossible standards, using immoral and unethical methods of advertising and promotion – such as this.  You should be ashamed of yourself.

    • Jane says:

      01:07pm | 23/07/09

      Its not a matter of age but a matter of the body wearing the outfit and teh face attactched to that body. If you are in good shape with a young looking face then you can wear anything appropriate for the occasion. If you are out of shape, your shape doesnt suit the outfit or your face is a roadmap of an interesting life, well…select carefully. Do you really want to be that old lady that from the back gets wolf whistles but guys cringe when they see the face!

    • CSJH says:

      02:37pm | 23/07/09

      Ben - actually the whole concept of “fashion” is to get women to spend ridiculous amounts of money at least several times a year on, err, ridiculous frippery that will be “out of fashion” in six months time.  Guys can wear the same suit for five or ten years and no one would notice or care.

      Women fall for this, instead of dressing and choosing for themselves.

      The most elegant women are almost never in a mini-skirt, so toss that aside, they’re the women who have a distinct style, honed over many years of care and attention, that suits and reflects them, and they stick to it, usually with classic and classy clothing that doesn’t need to be replaced every “season”.

      Elle Mc?  *Yawn* - sorry, but at 40 plus, I’m fed up with her unchanging “beach babe” hair and the bare legs.  Over it.  She’s going to look pretty heinous by the time she hits 50 if she doesn’t develop some style.

      OC - yes, good point:  the younger generations look so repulsive that the older generations only have to make a small effort to look a million bucks in comparison.

    • Megan Creighton says:

      03:03pm | 23/07/09

      Elle MacPherson looks fabulous, but does she really need to truss herself up in a tarty tight little gold lame dress???  Why on earth does she need to prove anything?  Ok she can wear whatever she likes and I don’t even care about the knees.  It’s the style of the dress I have a problem with.  It just isn’t classy.  Princess Diana used to tart herself up something like that too.

    • Kay says:

      03:05pm | 23/07/09

      Bottom line is: does it look good and do I have the body to carry it off.  I think “body appropriate” is a much better line to follow than “age appropriate”.  Seriously, the number of young women wearing low riders and minis who look completely HORRID with rolls of dimpled fat poking out everywhere, blotchy bare skin on display and/or tits hanging down to their crotch… well, it is mind boggling that they can bear to leave the house looking like it.  Maybe they have a magic mirror that lies to them…

    • Gary in Kuwait says:

      03:20pm | 23/07/09

      Really isnt it just another excuse for the media to put down people who can wear lovely clothes at what ever age they can, I bet that most of the critics in the fashion world, couldnt even fit into some of these clothes, and wouldnt be caught dead wearing them, only because their small minds believe they must follow trends and only trends, The media sounds like most religons, we have rules you must follow, But who makes the rules????  I think only them. Get a Life you fashion so called guru’s. If you have got it flaunt it.

    • Richard says:

      03:25pm | 23/07/09

      Who cares whether it “looks good”.
      If you like it and it “feels good” to you, that’s all that matters !
      To all these other people offering negative and nasty comments, the bottom line is - it’s none of your business !

    • Karl says:

      03:37pm | 23/07/09

      Some women regardless of age, look great in a miniskirt.  Others should stick to girdles, support hose and long loose fitting clothing.  Richard, it is my business when I am confronted by fat cullulite ridden, pale skinned thighs poking out from innappropriate clothing.  Don’t get me started on fat tarts in mid driff tops.

    • Kelly says:

      03:46pm | 23/07/09

      Firstly, agree with OC. I’m nearly 42, quite short, and still in pretty good shape thanks to regular exercise and a good diet. I actually am in better shape than my 14yo stepdaughter, who overeats and refuses to exercise. She continues to try to squeeze herself into unflattering clothes. If I have to see her butt crack one more time when she bends over I’ll puke! So many young women these days just don’t seem to take care of themselves and want to wear what all their skinny friends wear. Give me a classy well dressed 50yo any day over these young fashion criminals! It’s about how you carry yourself and dressing to suit your body type goes a long way. I used to know this large lady who was always impeccibly dressed - she always got hit on when we went out because she was so charismatic and beautifully presented.

    • mia says:

      04:11pm | 23/07/09

      Elle looks amazing discussing age is soooooooooooo boring if look like that wear it

    • Werris says:

      04:13pm | 23/07/09

      I’m my personal, professional and spiritual opinion…Elle MacPherson is a wanker!!! There nothing wrong with actual being modest for a few minutes of your life, instead of a bubblehead for the full course.

    • Razor says:

      05:32pm | 23/07/09

      As a Gentleman the only appropriate response is “Honey, i think you look wonderful in anything.”

    • Elliette says:

      05:37pm | 23/07/09

      I’m 64, and I will dress as I damn well please!
      Personally I’ve never been keen on micro mini’s, even in the 60’s when they were fashion de jour. I do not like the feel of wind in the willows… But short of wearing crotchless knickers, and thigh high yak skin boots, who the hell cares?

      What utter drivel about age! Age based on what? A Christian calendar? It’s all twaddle! Chronological age is garbage. Physiological age is accurate. You are literally are as old as you feel!

      Strewth! Mutton/lamb? (Let’s not forget the newbie-cougars!!! God forbid any sheila should fancy a younger bloke! Oh mercy me! She has to have fangs and claws! As opposed to fella’s…..who NEVER go near younger lassies..).

      Wear what you darn well please. The world is going to hell in a handbasket, so wear it like there’s no tomorrow!!

    • slk says:

      06:46pm | 23/07/09

      I think its about dressing for you body shape. I am 26, and not in too bad a shape, but already at my age can’t wear things I did before I had and breastfed my almost giant of a son (some things just aren’t where they used to be!) I certainly can’t wear tube dresses anymore!

    • Rob says:

      01:44am | 24/07/09

      I’m not sure that this is a good look on Elle. Why wear the nice little gold number over the full leather body suit?? Oh?? Whats that, its her skin??

      Poster girl for why NOT to stay in the sun too long…

      Have to agree with OC though, if an ‘older’ woman dress smart and it suits, go to town. Does look 100% better than the rubbish that passes for young women’s fashion these day.

    • jennifer says:

      08:26am | 24/07/09

      As a male I like seeing fat women wearing mini skirts, and twenty year olds with their stomach hanging over their low cut jeans. Very funny and very ugly, but it does give us all a laugh.

    • Maggie says:

      10:42am | 24/07/09

      to hell with all of them, she looks great, and yes life is too short too worry about what other people think, if you can walk past a mirror and dont do a double take or think ‘ooh look at that’ and cringe when you realise its you then you must be doing something right.  Anyway most women would wish they looked like her when they were 25 and most ment would like to be her handbag.

    • Melinda says:

      11:34am | 24/07/09

      Simple fact - as you get older your skin loses its taughtness and appeal no matter how much cosmetic surgery you may submit to.  There does come a time when we gals look more attractive showing less.  Crepey cleavages and saggy knees just aren’t gorgeous.  Jessica Alba could show more now at her young age, but out of modesty she chooses not to and looks totally stunning.  I have no problem when I’m dressing these days to channel more Jessica than Fergie!  I think Elle would look better if she did the same. I notice Demi covers up more these days too, and looks unbelievable.

    • James says:

      05:12pm | 24/07/09

      It doesn’t matter if it is ‘age appropriate’.  So long as it is ‘body appropriate’.

    • vicki pavlos says:

      07:08pm | 24/07/09

      I’ve seen another pic of Elle wearing the same dress, from another angle, and it wasn’t very flattering. Her feet - all veiny and accentuated tendons - looked much older than the image she was going for. Her jawline is hard. The physique is toned but looks more androgynous than feminine. 

      OK, she fits the dress nicely etc etc, we get it.

      But I think it’s too young for her. If you dress a lot younger then your ageing bits look even more noticeable.

      Show a little less skin and have a lot more allure and elegance.  The cougar look ain’t classy. And Elle’s a cougar look. 

      I’m not denying older women the right to look sexy, I just think it needs a different approach. European women have always known how to do this.

      Competing with women 20 years younger makes you look tragic.

      So she looks better than some younger women who are all muffin tops and jiggly bits. One can safely assume the latter do not have the money and resources of the former. So that’s an unfair comparison. 

      If you’ve got it flaunt it, but have a little dignity.

    • Lise says:

      11:14pm | 24/07/09

      I have a few friends who are Mum’s in their late 30’s or early 40’s.  Some of them look like they have stolen their daughter’s clothing.  Sorry but Elle looks like she has done the same.

    • liliya says:

      06:08am | 25/07/09

      Life is for living and enjoying not my buisness what someone wears or has their hair , i accept the person for the heart they have not   anything else since when did it become my buisness to observe and judge what some one wears   i never have ,and never will ,  its all so sad that people cant accept others for being unique ,original,  different…..

    • Dave says:

      08:04am | 25/07/09

      They all still look really good

    • Bubbles says:

      05:57pm | 25/07/09

      It’s not only age, but the body shape that determines if an outfit is appropriate. I think the comment about Obama flashing her arms is rather silly. She is slender, and the outfit suits her, she also does not look her age. If a 20 something extremely round, overweight girl went out in the same outfit, it would look terrible, and be innapropriate.

    • Nic says:

      03:49pm | 26/07/09

      I have seen the ‘full length’ photo of Elle in that dress and there’s cellulite showing on her thighs!  Not a good look at any age.  Definately time to try a longer length Elle.  Otherwise, if you’ve still got it, flaunt it.  But remember, if you’re showing legs, cover up elsewhere and vice-versa.

    • ageappropriateoutdated says:

      06:03am | 30/07/09

      Who determined that mini skirts and other fashions belonged to young women only?  I don’t agree with this.  I think any article of clothing can be modified to suit anyone of any age.  Of course, understand that this older women shouldn’t wear whatever is really about sexuality.  Older women and those who are moms, etc. aren’t supposed to be openly sexual.  And if you are of an age that doesn’t appeal to the patriarchy you are expected to cover up.  That includes the frequently maligned fat girls, cellulite inflicted, and plain. 

      Yet, men with beer bellies are allowed to go shirtless, offend my olafactory sensibilities with their smelly cologne,  haunt the airwaves with their craggy faces and hound dog jawls, while judging my appearance or trying to date me when they’re old enough to be my father and in no way attractive themselves. 

      Like Elle, I’m on the “wrong side” of 40 and you can believe that I wear what I want.  Of course I have no desire to tramp it up by showing an expanse of legs and boobs - WTF for?  But I could and I would if I wanted to.  I’m a grown woman and I don’t take orders from anyone when it comes to what I can do or wear.  Even if I did have varicose veins, wrinkly boobs, and a road map of a face its up to me to dress myself.  If it offends others, so what.  I’m more than an ornament and I should be able to do what pleases me.

    • Ann says:

      11:34am | 26/09/09

      Women over 40 can still wear short skirts but NOT macro mini
      It looks horrid (even if you have good legs) next to your old face.
      Women over 40 should wear minis not shorter then 10cm (4 inches)
      above the knee.

    • HILINA ELIAS says:

      02:28am | 10/10/09

      IT IS NICE FOR ME BUT I AM 28 YEARS OLD

    • Natasha says:

      11:30am | 12/10/09

      Going for elegant look is nicer in women over 40 and particularly women over 50 or 60.
      THere seems to be a huge polarization in dress for women over 50 - 60.
      From what I have noticed, many seem to go for the floppy tops trousers & flat shoes with very masculine styles and a small minority go for styles designed for 20 somethings.  Fortinately a growing number are going for the elegant look. My philosophy is the older I get the Jackie Onassis style elegance I will go for.  Sure that means you pay for more your garments but you can buy timeless feminine elegance in skirts blouses etc that will last.

    • elle says:

      05:31am | 26/03/10

      When trampy stops standing in for sexy then this age appropriate balderdash will cease.  Women get older and don’t lose their desire to be sexy, but there’s no model for older woman and sexy in society so women revert to what looks young and trampy. 

      It seems only the French woman knows how to be older and sexy.  In fact, there’s no societal rule that holds women over 40 are not sexy like in the US and UK..

    • Fed Up says:

      09:26am | 30/10/10

      I find so many of these comments offensive. People of any age and both sexes should pay attention to how they present themselves. But these comments about middle aged women’s faces being frightening at close range etc are disgusting. A lot of men look horrible and a lot older than they are and we don’t have page after page on the internet dissecting their faces, body parts and receding hairlines.
      A lot of young women look horrible too, but since they are young it’s ok? I am so tired of hearing about how middle aged women being either hot=ok for a fling or anything else=go and hide yourself somewhere because you are unattractive and no one wants to see or hear about you.

    • dondi says:

      08:30am | 14/06/11

      Fed up, I agree with you.  These comments are very ageist and so is the idea of “age-appropriate” dressing and not being able to show parts of yourself unless they’re 12 years old and picture f*cking perfect.  Unless a person literally looks like the Phantom of the Opera close up, I doublt anyone is going to be repulsed.  So an older woman is ok looking attractive from far away but not close up because she doesn’t look 25?  Yes, I find that offensive myself.  I have seen older ladies with great bodies from far away dressed “young” and close up I’ve never been repulsed.  Maybe a bit taken aback as in “Hmn.  I thought she was younger.” but that’s the extent of it. My second thought: good for her. Yes, some ageist men want older women to surrender their sexuality and power and slink away so they can control all the young ones.

    • Rosemary says:

      02:15pm | 19/09/11

      Just because you fit in something does mean you should wear it!!!

 

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