Who knew dating a Kardashian could prove detrimental? If modern popular culture has taught us anything, it’s that reality TV can turn even the most mundane of families into a multi-million dollar business.

Hey, don't blame the good looking one. Photo: Herald Sun

And yet the entertainment industry is buzzing with reports that Kanye West’s decision to cosy up to self-promoting extraordinaire Kim Kardashian is damaging his music career.

That’s right, embarking on a relationship with a woman best known for starring in a sex tape and selling coverage of her 72-day marriage to the highest bidder doesn’t seem to have boosted West’s credibility. Who would have guessed?

Faced with dwindling concert ticket sales and a lack of respect from his peers, the American media have been quick to pin the blame for the rapper’s diminishing fortunes firmly at Kardashian’s Givenchy-clad shoes.

“His personal life is overpowering his music,” an industry source sniped to a US newspaper this week, adding that being seen in the company of his current squeeze prevented him from being “taken seriously”.

As excuses go, that’s about as weak as they come. After all, West was doing a pretty good job of destroying his reputation on his own long before taking up with the ubiquitous Kardashian.

Most famously, of course, was his mean-spirited storming of the stage at the MTV Video Music Awards three years ago in which he took it upon himself to interrupt Taylor Swift as she accepted the award for Best Female Video.

“Yo, Taylor, I’m really happy for you, Imma let you finish but Beyonce had one of the best videos of all time,” he declared, clearly oblivious to the then 19-year-old Swift’s utter horror and humiliation.

Even those who suspected he was technically correct in deeming Beyonce’s Single Ladies to be the superior offering were offended by his insensitive arrogance, with no less an authority than Barack Obama labelling West a “jackass”.

So as convenient as it is to hold Kardashian accountable for West’s professional demise, surely the genuine culprit lies even closer to home.

Yet the notion that a successful man cannot function without a dutiful woman by his side, solely devoted to his needs, is an enduring one.

Late last month my colleague, the delightful Phil Rothfield, opined that Michael Clarke’s improved batting average was a direct result of marrying model Kyly Boldy earlier this year

“It’s a big improvement on the old soap opera days of the Lara Bingle relationship when he more often appeared in Sydney Confidential than these sporting pages,” he wrote.

Ah, that pesky Bingle. How dare she distract her man from the important business of hitting balls across a field with her personal dramas and career aspirations?

Just who did she think she was? His fiancee? What kind of a woman thinks her problems and needs are just as important as her future husband’s day job?

But, to many, that Bingle’s schedule failed to solely revolve around Clarke was a very serious problem indeed.

“With Lara, it was all about her,” a source told Rothfield. “With Kyly it’s all about him.”

Well forgive me going all Dr Phil, but shouldn’t a relationship be a two-way street? Why should either partner – irrespective of their significant other’s professions – be expected to surrender their own identity and goals?

In a society that celebrates women who put their own ambition on hold to support their man, we are still uncomfortable with the reverse scenario.

If Michael Clarke stands by his enterprising fiancee then he’s dismissed as a wuss. But when Michelle Obama shelves her career to play dutiful wife she is universally admired.

It’s time to debunk the tiresome myth that in order to succeed, a man must choose a trophy wife for his bride. There is enough room in any marriage for two people, two personalities, and two sets of hopes and dreams.

And if not, then it’s time to call Dr Phil. 

Email: sarrah.lemarquand@news.com.au

Twitter: @SarrahLeM

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    • acotrel says:

      05:21am | 20/12/12

      This garbage   is just part of the usual crap designed to stuff the ordinary punter in the head so politicians can continue to be sleazey.

    • embracedmadness says:

      09:41am | 20/12/12

      The walls of your house must be stacked top to bottom with Woman’s Day and New Idea then eh? Now we have the explanation folks.

    • SAm says:

      05:32am | 20/12/12

      I think its more accurate to blame his demise on his complete lack of talent, coupled with an idiotic personality

    • Macca says:

      06:08am | 20/12/12

      Exactly. Also, he’s a gay fish

    • Brute Man says:

      09:35am | 20/12/12

      @Macca - You made my day

    • haitrn says:

      09:57am | 20/12/12

      Because he loves fish sticks?

    • subotic R. Kelly says:

      11:27am | 20/12/12

      Yea, until he pees on a 14 year old chick, his music is worthless.

      I didn’t realize that he had any personailty, let alone an idiotic one. Just sayin…

    • Troy Flynn says:

      12:48pm | 20/12/12

      Macca: Thank you PML smile

    • George says:

      05:38am | 20/12/12

      Meh. Clarke makes the real money, the model, probably doesn’t. Therefore it should most definitely be mostly about him. No money and you end up having to star in reality shows.

      Bogan feminism. Seriously these bogan feminism articles are just posted to rile people up aren’t they?

      The only people who take rappers seriously are morons.

    • James of Hong Kong says:

      10:48am | 20/12/12

      Yeah and let’s face it, when the ship is going down they call for “women and children first” so why can’t we go first sometimes in the game of life?

      “Ah, that pesky Bingle. How dare she distract her man from the important business of hitting balls across a field with her personal dramas and career aspirations?”

      How pointless is this? I mean really, it could be the other way around if Clarke was a nobody and Bingle’s career was suffering because of him, so what’s your point? In any event, beauty fades naturally not because your being distracted by mental maintenance and looking for the media distraction anyway. Form based upon skill is so mental, so why can’t Clarke (or anyone else for that matter) blame Bingle for having been “pesky” and distracting him from concentrating on that skill? I know he looked for the spotlight too but eventually all he wanted to do was get away from it as it was hurting his career, whereas she craved it and saw it as an adjunct to the rise of hers.

    • TChong says:

      05:41am | 20/12/12

      “Ahh the pesky Laura Bingle, how dare she distract her man… with her personal dramas and career aspirations”
      Damn Straight !!!
      Agree entirely .

      BTW Career aspirations ?  pahleese!
      Her “career"is “party girl"according to Ms B., and since she still appears in the Teles goss pages as doing exactly that - “partying”, then it seems Ms Bs
      career continues undiminished.

    • O_O says:

      07:31am | 20/12/12

      +1

      Instead of trying to blame this on society/men, how about feminists educate their own gender and call out that being a party girl with no aspirations other than to find and leech off a successful man is not doing their cause a disservice??

    • O_O says:

      08:12am | 20/12/12

      Oops - I mean ‘is doing’ rather than ‘is not doing’. It’s early….need more coffee grin

    • O_O says:

      06:10am | 20/12/12

      Err….the primary ambition that these ” WAG” type women have is to cosy up with a famous, successful man. They usually have little skill or talent themselves apart from looking pretty (of which Kim Kardashian is the epitome). And to have Michelle Obama linked to Kim Kardashian in the same article is crazy…

      So, perhaps we shouldn’t be using them as a case study of women supporting men, given that bring a trophy wife is their aim. In regular life I don’t know of any woman who has given up their aspirations to support their husband, or vice versa.

    • Nathan says:

      07:22am | 20/12/12

      also, has Michelle Obama given anything up? Pretty confident that what ever her agenda it is better served from living in the white house.

    • subotic says:

      11:28am | 20/12/12

      Until Michelle Obama does a sex tape I’m soooooooo not interested….

    • bec says:

      06:30am | 20/12/12

      Kim Kardashian isn’t going to be the downfull of Kanye. The fact that he has managed to survive so many self-inflicted downfalls is evidence that the guy is pretty much bullet-proof.

      He would have to do something actually criminal or socially unpleasant beyond the point of mere narcissism to detract people from the fact that he makes good music and is an incredibly well-respected producer in the industry. More to the point, the narcissism is now an entertaining byproduct. It’s less ‘tearing other people down’ than it is ‘raising himself up’, and he graciously, selflessly offers himself as a prime, fatty lolcow for the consumption of dozens.

    • Nathan says:

      06:36am | 20/12/12

      “His personal life is overpowering his music,” isn’t that how they sell records? Sure as hell is not on talent its about marketability.

    • Tim says:

      06:40am | 20/12/12

      Yes,
      relationships should be a two way street.

      According to the author ‘its all about her’ is a great example of this two way street in action.

      As for Kanye, its clearly Kardashian holding him down. Part of his success was due to his arrogant and cool persona. It’s why people may have derided him for the Taylor Swift incident but it actually added to his reputation.

      Kardashian represents the exact opposite of that, and its most definitely hurting his career.

    • Tim says:

      06:42am | 20/12/12

      Yes,
      relationships should be a two way street.

      According to the author ‘its all about her’ is a great example of this two way street in action.

      As for Kanye, its clearly Kardashian holding him down. Part of his success was due to his arrogant and cool persona. It’s why people may have derided him for the Taylor Swift incident but it actually added to his reputation.

      Kardashian represents the exact opposite of that, and its most definitely hurting his career.

    • Amanda says:

      06:45am | 20/12/12

      You forget that Dr Phil himself has his own supportive wife.

    • Jack says:

      10:36am | 20/12/12

      I read that as ‘Dr Phil himself is his own supportive wife’, and I was about to declare it comment of the year.

    • Tubesteak says:

      06:47am | 20/12/12

      “Yet the notion that a successful man cannot function without a dutiful woman by his side, solely devoted to his needs, is an enduring one.”

      And utterly false. A man no more needs a woman to be successful than a train needs a caterpillar. The saying should really be “behind every successful man is often a woman riding his coat-tails and spending his money”

      Both John Lennon and Kurt Cobain were great musicians before hooking up with a succubus that brought about their demise

      Michael Clarke showed some intelligence by ditching the black hole of drama known as Bingle for a woman that seems to know her place. Bingle was never going to amount to anything: a third rate model whose career is already over. Clarke is the Australian cricket captain: one of the highest positions in the land. Wasting your time devoting resources on her career is as stupid as the Australian government throwing money at car manufacturers in order to prop up an industry in which we have no comparative or absolute advantage

    • St. Michael says:

      08:07am | 20/12/12

      “Clarke is the Australian cricket captain: one of the highest positions in the land.”  Yep, the captain has to assent to all Bills out of Parliament.  Very important mechanism, especially after 1975. o_O

    • George says:

      10:59am | 20/12/12

      John Lennon’s early to mid 70s stuff was good, great even. He also had a few good songs in late 70s and 1980!

      Yoko doesn’t have the best reputation but I doubt she put her career before John’s.

    • AdamC says:

      11:13am | 20/12/12

      Tubesteak says:

      “Both John Lennon and Kurt Cobain were great musicians before hooking up with a succubus that brought about their demise”

      You have to get points for managing to use the word ‘succubus’ in a blog comment, at the very least.

    • Pattem says:

      12:00pm | 20/12/12

      @Tubesteak, my take is that the role of a woman in a man’s life is to help him be the best he can be.  She should be an encouragement, not toward worldly success, but toward him being a man of integrity, honesty, responsibility, etc.

      Women are not door mats, nor leeches, nor servile tools!  A lot of the time the partners we attract are basically the results of self-fulfilling prophecies.

      And no, I’m not a deluded romantic fool, for my wife is constantly challenging me to be a better man, and it is definitely good for me. smile

      I must say there is mutual respect in our house (which I think is more important than love).

    • Tubesteak says:

      12:05pm | 20/12/12

      St Michael
      Cricket capitain is far more important than PM. The PM isn’t going to win back The Ashes. That is vital for the nation’s spirit.

      George
      Everyone knows Lennon did his best stuff before Yoko Ono.

      AdamC
      I am proud, too. Especially since it fits so well for this topic.

    • Pattem says:

      12:34pm | 20/12/12

      @Tubesteak, I must agree with AdamC’s sentiment.  The use of “succubus” is impressive.  Enjoy the glory while it lasts.

      My favourite word would have to be: Onomatopoeia.  Admittedly this is not as good as SUCCUBUS.

      How many busses would a succubus suck,
      if a succubus sucked ya bus?

    • St. Michael says:

      01:51pm | 20/12/12

      “PM isn’t going to win back The Ashes.”

      Well, unless you’re resident in one of John Howard’s more explicit sexual fantasies.

    • NESLIHAN KUROSAWA says:

      07:03am | 20/12/12

      Hi Sarrah,

      The Kardashian sisters are world famous and house hold names, what ever they do somehow will make headlines for all the wrong reasons.  They are so used to this kind of publicity that this shouldn’t hurt their image at all. I personally think that they make a handsome couple for the time being. The actual saying happens to be that “behind every successful man there is an intelligent woman"right?  So much for being intelligent and successful though?  Surely it is impossible to ask for anymore than that   in the show business people! They make it all seem so effortless.

      Fame and success these days seem to be more about all those struggling show business personalities taking their chance of five minutes of fame.  And all that is because of posing for the cameras?  Should we look forward to another reality kind of program about Kayne West and Kim Kardashian? They do seem to lead such good lives with a lot of purpose. You know what? It may only be hurting his image within his own community and his fans from African American background, simply because inter racial relationships can prove a bit of headache for most artists.

      Remember Jennifer Lopez and P Diddy as a couple, which also made headlines for a little while. I personally believe that true artists and truly talented names don’t need this kind of negative/positive publicity? Only the very desperate will resort to this kind of comedy show. And why not?  Members of the public are always interested in a little bit of hot gossip to liven up their own lives, right?  Kind regards.

    • Troy Flynn says:

      01:28pm | 20/12/12

      I don’t believe it was anything to do with racial differences. Lopez & Diddy have massive egos that wouldn’t have been able to compete with each other.

    • dibatag says:

      07:20am | 20/12/12

      rapper and his music you would have to be a moron to call it music it’s all Crap

    • Jack says:

      10:34am | 20/12/12

      Yeah. Those damn kids and their hippity hop. Fetch me my phonograph and Dave Clark Five records!

      You are a parody.

    • sunny says:

      07:26am | 20/12/12

      I can never keep up with this stuff ..I thought Kanye was dating Taylor Swift - did they have a falling out?

    • acotrel says:

      07:46am | 20/12/12

      Who cares ? I am more interested in George Pell’s latest sermon.

    • sunny says:

      09:03am | 20/12/12

      George would get a bigger audience if he rapped his sermons M&M style, with Slash, Dido and Dr. Dre all featuring.

    • Troy Flynn says:

      02:51pm | 20/12/12

      @sunny: Doh! I meant Eminem not M&M

      ..although the latter also has talent

      Which one? The red, yellow or blue M&M? smile

    • sunny says:

      03:54pm | 20/12/12

      Troy - those ones are all talented in their own way. Just stay away from the green ones - not much talent and they’re randy little mongrels always trying to hump your leg.

    • Canberra Quack says:

      07:31am | 20/12/12

      You do realize that M Obamas career was so useful that her job was deleted from the hospital employment opportunities when she resigned. Life there simply went on without her input or the job she was suppose to be doing. Paycheck sacrifice yes, meaningful career loss no.

    • St. Michael says:

      11:31am | 20/12/12

      Yup.  It was a toy job, much as Jacqueline Kennedy-Onassis had a job as an “editor” for a publishing house despite having no qualifications for the job beyond high school graduation.

    • MattC says:

      07:33am | 20/12/12

      It’s Celebrity PR 101; how to revive a flagging career - hook up with a professional media tart, get your mug in every glossy on the planet, bask in the free publicity for your latest album/movie/tv show/whatever. They both get something out of it, Kim will be using it to flog handbags, clothes, perfume, and whatever else the family slaps their name on. Nothing to do with feminism.

    • ibast says:

      07:50am | 20/12/12

      Kim Kardashian did a sex tape?  Why wasn’t I told?

    • fml says:

      08:38am | 20/12/12

      What rock have you been hiding under!

    • Markus says:

      09:34am | 20/12/12

      You aren’t missing anything. The top stays on the whole time, and she seems to be more engrossed in looking at herself than anything else.

    • St. Michael says:

      11:29am | 20/12/12

      I strongly suggest iBlast was being sarcastic… wink

    • simonfromlakemba says:

      11:46am | 20/12/12

      LOL with Markus, huge disappointment

    • Steve of QBN says:

      12:13pm | 20/12/12

      “The top stays on the whole time…”  which would explain why she went ab-sol-lutely crackers when a photoshoot she did partly clothed showed her <gasp> NIPPLE!!!!  Oh my god!  Oh the tears!  The tantrums!  The wailing and gnashing of teeth.  Meh! 

      Mind you, photos of her mum in a bikini for New Idea looked might fine.

    • St. Michael says:

      01:47pm | 20/12/12

      @ Steve of QBN: you clearly must’ve missed her Playboy shoot.  In respect of it, there was one thing she said during her reality TV series that, I think, sums up Kim Kardashian if not all of the Kardashians at large: “I don’t mind being naked so long as I’m covered in diamonds and pearls.”

    • Markus says:

      02:10pm | 20/12/12

      Pearl necklaces?

    • St. Michael says:

      02:46pm | 20/12/12

      @ Markus ... fortunately, yes, as the subsequent Playboy shoot shows.  I’m not touching the other implications of your statement since it would suggest Kardashian is a porn star.  Oh wait…

    • BJ says:

      07:55am | 20/12/12

      Who could have predicted that Kim Kardashian or Lara Bingle would be high maintenence?

    • Martin says:

      08:04am | 20/12/12

      You only have to look at Kanye’s awful “performance” at the 12-12-12 concert to see what an egotistical, talentless hack he is. Musician’s twice his age blew him off the stage. His appearance was a stain on what was an otherwise fantastic event. West appears to have oozed out of the same shallow gene pool as Anthony Mundine.

    • scotty says:

      08:23am | 20/12/12

      Hmm. Having seen Kanye live last year I’m not convinced Kardashian is the problem. I love West’s music but in concert he was a self-aggrandising, self-indulgent bore. He spent the greater part of the concert flogging his audience with with his needy ego and I’d never pay to see him again. After seeing him live I would think twice about buying his next album, regardless of its quality- that’s how bad he was.

    • simonfromlakemba says:

      08:30am | 20/12/12

      Strange article this one.

      Kanye will still be successful, the only thing hurting him would be that he doesn’t release as much music as he used to.

      The College Dropout was still an awesome album, just depends which was Roc-A-Fella takes him.

    • Mark says:

      09:21am | 20/12/12

      There is a god.

      Kanye West is the epitome of everything wrong with American’s and the music industry. Little substance, a lot of effort and a lot of arrogance.

    • Stephen says:

      09:42am | 20/12/12

      Who are these people?

    • MaryM says:

      10:35am | 20/12/12

      We need more people like you Stephen.

      As far as I know, they’re famous because they fill up the tabloids, and they fill up the tabloids because they’re famous. Or something.

    • I hate pies says:

      10:23am | 20/12/12

      Note to the Punch editors - you don’t need a question mark when you’re making a statement

    • Markus says:

      11:20am | 20/12/12

      I’m Ron Burgundy?

    • Luc Belrose says:

      11:03am | 20/12/12

      This item reminds me of a very pertinent French saying ie “Qui s’y frotte s’y pique” . In English:- dont get too close or you’ll get stung!.

    • Troy Flynn says:

      01:16pm | 20/12/12

      So Sarrah, do you not believe there is such a thing as “Trophy Husband”. I think Angelina Jolie would debate that with you.
      I’m sure other Puncher’s could name strong women who have trophy husbands.

    • Markus says:

      02:17pm | 20/12/12

      Billy Bob was a trophy husband? Was he the Participation award?

    • Troy Flynn says:

      02:47pm | 20/12/12

      Just as an after thought, Brynne would also qualify as someone with a trophy husband, though not due to being a powerful woman by any stretch of the imagination. Unless you’re one of those people who believe “stripping” empowers women.

    • Troy Flynn says:

      02:59pm | 20/12/12

      I’d forgotten about Billy Bob, but I’m sure most people realised I was referring to Brad.

    • Markus says:

      03:39pm | 20/12/12

      Brad Pitt’s net worth is estimated to be close to $180 million, nearly 50% more than Jolie at around $120 million.

    • Troy Flynn says:

      04:05pm | 20/12/12

      Marcus: That doesn’t mean that he isn’t the trophy. Didn’t she pursue him while he was still in a relationship with Jennifer ?

    • Testfest says:

      05:29pm | 20/12/12

      Troy,

      Brad Pitt might be a prize, but he’s not a trophy husband.

      The general concensus on the interwebs seems to be that a trophy wife is a young attractive woman who is a status symbol for an older (wealthier) man. In other words, a gold digger.

      There’s certainly a few guys who fall into the “trophy husband” basket, but it’s a vanishingly small number compared to the number of trophy wives. Men just don’t seem to value wealth, power, or professional success in a spouse the same way that women do…

 

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