Our national enthusiasm for deifying and excusing flawed sports stars was demonstrated again this week with Ben Cousins being afforded hero status for manfully accepting a one-week ban over his role in a fracas with a group of Richmond teammates at a Sydney hotel last weekend.

Cousins, left, trains with Richmond teammates at Punt Rd this week. Photo: Craig Borrow

The discussion surrounding the incident – in which Cousins’ role was very limited and, up to a point, defensible – reveals a major problem with the way this troubled footballing champion’s battle with drugs and alcohol is being addressed.

It is this – the people who are ostensibly supporting Cousins still seem more worried about keeping him on the park, than keeping him away from the very environment which could drag him back into the world of drug abuse.

The saddest feature of Cousins fall from grace while playing for West Coast was the extent to which his behaviour had been ignored, or possibly even enabled, by those around him.

The club, the board, other players…anyone involvement with the West Coast Eagles would have had some degree of awareness that Cousins’ life was spiralling out of control. His conduct was so aberrant that it’s been speculated that, in the moments after the siren sounded in the 2006 grand final and the trophy was handed over, Cousins’ high-speed hand-pumping gesture in the middle of the MCG may have suggested that he was already under the influence of an illicit substance.

Getting away from Perth and West Coast was the best thing that could have happened to Cousins. But it now looks like he’s a very real risk of repeating the mistakes he made back in the West.

He is clearly vulnerable to relapse, as is any addict. He has admitted as much himself. But he’s also made some other admissions, the most disturbing of which was in his amazing interview with GQ Magazine last September, where he made the jaw-dropping admission that he still likes a drink.

In fact, the general tone of Cousins’ interview with Fred Pawle was that he still gets a bit of a secret kick out of enjoying bad boy status.

He joked at the start of the interview with stylists that they had to be careful dressing him.

“Don’t put me in an Elwood shirt, every time I wear one of them I get arrested,” he said in reference to his famous bust-up with the cops on a Perth street where he had his T-shirt tied around his waist and his now famous “Such is Life” tattoo adorning his sixpack.

It was a funny and self-deprecating line, but it was his subsequent playful remarks about still enjoying a beer which should have sounded alarm bells.

But this was the key passage from the GQ interview:

Pawle: Do you still drink?

Cousins: Yeah.

Pawle: Does that flick any switches in your head?

Cousins: I have to be careful with that sort of stuff.

Pawle: It always starts with drinking, doesn’t it?

Cousins: It can do, but I’m on a pretty strict regime. I can’t afford to slip up, and enjoying the occasional drink is something I look forward to. It’s all in moderation.”

Pawle: You do nothing in excess these days?

Cousins: My life is in excess. I do everything in excess. I’m an extremist of the highest order. They’re the very qualities that have made me very good at what I do, football-wise. Take them away from me, you take away the qualities that make me very good at playing football. It’s just about harnessing them in other areas so I can still get the best out of myself without losing it.

Pawle: Those demons won’t go away, eh?

Cousins: I’m not naive enough to think that I can just wash my hands of where I’ve come from and it’s all in the past. The harsh reality of it is that it’s a struggle.

The obvious tension in this extraordinary exchange is how Cousins can acknowledge his status as an extremist of the highest order, while admitting that he still drinks alcohol and hangs around with drinkers.

This high-risk balancing act come unstuck in Sydney last weekend. Cousins was not drunk. But those around him were, so much so that they woke up a group of triathletes who were sleeping in a neighbouring room. Most unsettling of all was Cousin’s bizarre decision that the best way to get drunken teammate Daniel Connors to stop being an ass and turn in for the night was to belt him. His subsequent attempts to explain that little manouevre, albeit with the addition of a welcome apology, suggested he still has some behavioural issues to sort out.

Most of us can remember nights where a friend has had one too many and needs to be removed, but knocking them out not widely regarded as the ideal way to defuse a situation.

The Richmond Football Club has tried hard, and certainly done a much better job than West Coast ever did, in handling this incident. In the past Cousins’ pecadilloes often attracted that mindless, knee-jerk reaction that it was nothing but tall poppy syndrome and the media and public should leave the kid alone.

At least Richmond CEO Craig Cameron told Melbourne radio that Cousins had erred.

‘‘He could have acted at the origins of this incident, and he also could handled it a bit better when it escalated. So it was nothing to do with intoxication,’‘

The bigger issue for the club – and for Cousins – is to ask why he continues to place himself in a setting where drink is available and other people will get drunk. As things stand he is still playing an addict’s equivalent of Russian Roulette, where he will come under pressure from false friends to have “a quiet one”, a quiet one being an Australian euphemism for a dozen standard drinks.

It’s increasingly difficult to see what value the ageing Cousins brings to the hapless Tigers – or moreso, what the club can really offer him. The only role Richmond will play this year is to do Adelaide fans a favour by saving the Crows the embarrassment of snaring their first wooden spoon. Beyond that, Cousins is surrounded by guys who for the next 19 weeks will be looking to drown their sorrows.

Through his neglect by West Coast, and even under a better level of care at Richmond, Ben Cousins reminds me of those tent boxers whose conniving proprietors keep pushing their boys into one more bout. The footy culture might be the only culture he knows but it is the worst place for him to be. You have to wonder whether his status as a drawcard for crowds and members, a constant source of coverage for the AFL, is still regarded as somehow trumping his own welfare.

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    • acker says:

      06:41am | 15/04/10

      Having a dot com betting company sponsorship logo on that Richmond training top, doesn’t realy add much to my negative perception about the clubs level of off-feild care, suppose it is good for their CEO’s salary bonus…Ironical ! or perhaps even Tigeronical !

    • Alex says:

      11:36am | 15/04/10

      Aker, ‘Ironical’ is not a word, so your opinion of my club is of no relevance to anyone.  Are you a heraldsun sports journalist by any chance?

    • BTS says:

      12:00pm | 15/04/10

      Lol, Acker snags another one!

    • acker says:

      01:38pm | 15/04/10

      @BTS ....lol and it’s tigeronical he spelt my aka “aker” the same spelling as the great Rory Akermanis wink

    • Francois says:

      07:51am | 15/04/10

      The behaviour of Cousins’ team mate was so out of control and obnoxious that he copped a short left from Ben in an attempt to calm him down (no time for holding hands or pc crap) and Connors was not unconcious as stated!
      After seeing his below average performance against Sydney on Sat night i’m thinking he’ll hang up the boots and the end of the season, so why not get behind him and congratulate him on turning his life around and getting back as an elite sportsman.
      I’m not a fan of Cousins the person but have admired his football abilities for many years and hope he has the metal to keep control once he is living outside the football arena.
      Good luck Ben, keep your head down and hands by your sides!

    • iansand says:

      08:26am | 15/04/10

      I need to understand this.  Cousins was with a bunch of drinkers and was not drunk.  Can someone identify the problem for me?  It seems to me that he controlled himself rather well, at least on that night.

    • BW says:

      11:10am | 15/04/10

      iansand: ...except his fists, it seems.

    • Tim says:

      08:23am | 15/04/10

      I think Cousin’s behaviour on that night was completely appropriate. He did exactly what I think many people would do in that situation.
      The more pressing matter would be why the players were out on the drink after putting in such a woeful performance against Sydney.

    • pokkeme says:

      09:44am | 15/04/10

      why are the Tiges punishing the supporters and the team by suspending these players for off-field incidents? Why don’t they fine them, and make them do extra training? Can’t do them any harm, and surely time off the field is the last thing a struggling team needs…

    • BTS says:

      10:01am | 15/04/10

      Punching someone in the face is probably not universally accepted as appropriate behaviour.

    • Shane Dillon says:

      03:03pm | 15/04/10

      Totally agree…if I get into a drunken fracas in public and belt someone in the face I’ll probably get charged with assault

    • Peter Warrington says:

      10:15am | 15/04/10

      great call by Hardwick to rid my bunch of losers of any complacency.

      cousins is easily still in richmond’s best 22-25, and with his training example and his generally better on-field decision making (albeit with vastly diminished speed and power), he will offer leadership and maturity to a team of very young kids (he is one of two richmond players over 27). he is the only player at richmond to achieve anything. yet…

      thanks for your concern penbo,

      but don’t be so sure the spoon is heading to punt rd (wallace got us to 9th in a season where we lost 4 games by 100+). 3 mid-sized lossed against 2 definite finals teams and one maybe is not the end of the world. how they played in the first two games was… but the endeavour and structure was there last saturday, just not the disposal. when we beat the Dees on the weekend, that will start to flow. you heard it here first, from a PROUD TIGER who doesn’t need or want you, and all of the smug football writes in australia, to shed their crocdile tears.

      EAT EM ALIVE!!!!!!!

    • Paddy Harrington says:

      10:25am | 15/04/10

      Penbo - Richmond did a humane thing last year and helped out Ben by offering a place for him to get away from what he was dealing with. Since then, the media circus would have driven most into relapse or even worse….My understanding is that he has been a great leader and mentor of the very young list we have and has been a good contributor on game day. To abandon him now would be the typical richmond thing to do. Where to next for him. I think we have helped his path although there is high risk with that, which we are all aware of. In the mean time, all the recent troubles with certain aussie actors from crap TV shows who are in the “A List” set continue to keep clear of the scrutiny that the footy players get. For once, lets get behind ben, get the cameras off his front door and stop searching for headlines. Oh, and if you know any players with skill, determination and passion - tell them to call the once all mighty Richmond Football Club. Eat em alive!

    • Shifter says:

      01:49pm | 15/04/10

      I’d have Cuz back on a young Eagles list too. Any young team would love a verteran with his skills and work ethic on the field. He proved his leadership in 2006 when the club made Judd it’s puppet figurehead.

      It’d be nice if the media stopped hounding him for a story; I know we’re desperate for celebrity and scandal in Australia but surely we don’t need to hassle every AFL footballer after a drink.

      Cousins has said football is one of the best things in his life, and surely taking that away is more likely to cause a relapse.

    • acker says:

      10:47am | 15/04/10

      The only reason “Cuz” looks good in this mess is because the other bloke Daniel Connors previously from Echuca looks so bad. Sky news ran a nasty story about him yesterday or the day before.

    • Whitey says:

      11:11am | 15/04/10

      How ridiculous to claim Ben was on an illicit drug when the trophy was presented in ‘06 Grand Final because of a fist pump.  The guys got issues but I’m not convinced you could runnout a grand final while under the influence.

    • connolly says:

      01:22pm | 15/04/10

      Whitey little Benny’s drug of preference at the time of his 06 Grand Final celebration was amphetimine. Its a listed WADA performance enhancing drug. It was (is?) very popular with endurance athletes such as cyclists. A cyclist died from amphetimine use at the Rome Olympics. Interesting Ben seems to have lost his mojo on the paddock these days. Must be the aging process. What ya reckon?

    • Connolly says:

      01:16pm | 15/04/10

      Whitey the guy was like the bunny in the battery advertisement. Get a DVD of the match and have a look. He ran all over the ground in the last quarter. I don’t think Woosha rested him on the pine in that quarter.  He was still going while those Sydney bunnies (one of the fittest teams in the comp) were running on the spot. No doubt due to Benny’s superb fitness.There are a few more chapters of the Cuz story to be written.

    • TracyS says:

      02:02pm | 16/04/10

      @connolly - Ben Cousin’s fall from grace came after he admitted to drug use following some episodes of rather odd behaviour. There was no reports of amphetamines found in urine testing, and considering how high profile this case was it would have been reported if it was there. I suspect that the adrenaline rush of actually playing footy during the season would mean that the urge to use a stimulant would be less, and that it is in the down times of the off season when he would struggle more with the urge to use.
      As for his form - it’s not so bad. He just doesn’t have Kerr and Judd on the same paddock anymore - that combination was always better than just the sum of the individual players.

    • Bella says:

      04:48pm | 17/04/10

      I have a close family friend who was taken in the draft by one of the top performing teams for the past decade. He played 12 games over two seasons during which time he personally witnessed at least one very famous player taking amphetamines directly prior to games and insinuated that this particular player consistently played under the influence. Apparently he could get away with it because drug testing was conducted at a time that meant he could take it before the game but after testing but then had the rest of the weekend to get it out of his system before more training sessions where he was likely to be tested again. Plus testing is only randomly conducted.

    • dorian says:

      11:28am | 15/04/10

      So for cousins , being around a football club is akin to Jon Anderson being around other journos ....better give him the flick as well

    • ABC says:

      02:12pm | 15/04/10

      I’m a Richmond member, and I’m on Penbo’s side.  It is clear that Ben Cousins has a great deal of difficulty in reigning himself in once he gets started, in that sense he doesn’t have an off switch.

      I have a very dear and close friend who is an alcoholic (now I am not suggesting Cousins is one) - whose been sober for about 5 years.  However, this bloke is the sort who has both the willpower and desire to resist.  You can go with him to the pub and know that he’s not going to let loose and fall off the wagon.  Ben Cousins has said himself that he does not really have the capacity to restrain himself in this fashion.  When “all or nothing” is an inherent part of your psychology (which Cousins admits in the interview quoted) an environment (such as a footy club) which puts such focus on the “all” and indeed encourages it in almost every respect it is a recipe for someone who lacks the capacity for real and considered restraint to get themselves into deep trouble.

    • 6c legs says:

      12:23pm | 15/04/10

      It had to happen one day. I’m agreeing with Penbo!

      And “Whitey”, Penbo isn’t inferring that Cousins was drunk, the sort of drugs Cousins was taking then would have certainly allowed him to “runnout a grand final” (if not made “running out a grand final” - ‘easier’.

      But i also believe that the sporting media (The Footy Show, anyone?) has also had a role in the way Cousins/etal have been held up as heros. (in fact ALL the so called Bad Boyz of sport)

      Anyone who thinks that punching their mate to ‘shud-em-up’ is a perfectly reasonable action probably thinks (and does) that; ‘giving the missus one, because she nagged me into it’ - is perfectly okay too…

      Until footy [all codes] cleans house of it’s badly-behaved-boofy-players it won’t receive a brass razoo from me.
      Whether the AFL?NRL bosses like it or not their players do have impact on society, and for the money all of them get they need to show some respect for how they shape the fans thinking…. like that’s gunna happen.

      If Cousins or his ilk want some respect from the media, then they need to some respect to society! I’m sick to death of the excuses made for these douchebags all because they can kick a ball.  If an ordinary joe public stumbles in life you don’t hear other people making excuses for them - no, most are only too keen to damn them.

      I swear, a drunk Footballer could drug and rape a 12year old girl on one of the Footy Shows, and the fanz would think it was an hilarious skit!

    • Dan says:

      01:36pm | 15/04/10

      Oh, come on. Footballers are under more scrutiny than ‘normal’ people. If an ‘ordinary joe public stumbles in life’, you wouldn’t even hear about it. It wouldn’t be on the front page of the Herald Sun, it wouldn’t be discussed on radio and we wouldn’t be discussing it on this site.

      David Penberthy; “You have to wonder whether his status as a drawcard for crowds and members, a constant source of coverage for the AFL, is still regarded as somehow trumping his own welfare.” Only Cousins, and those close to him, know whether playing football is the best thing for him. You’re not exactly in a position to make such a judgement.

    • incredulous says:

      03:50pm | 15/04/10

      Have you any idea how people behave on drugs?
      It certainly isn’t focussed or disciplined behaviour for 3 hours.

      Show me a methamphetamine user who can do much of ANYTHING for 3 hours, let alone run themselves ragged on a football field and i’ll wave at the pig flying past my window.

    • Glen says:

      04:06pm | 15/04/10

      Actually, no

      The sort of drug Penbo is referring to would have significantly decreased the chances of Ben running out the game.

    • acker says:

      05:51pm | 15/04/10

      @6c legs ...I think the Footy Show causes a lot of this player indifference by creating an atmosphere of “it’s OK to be a tool” with senior club officiado’s Maguire (Pies) & Brayshaw’s (Roos) blessing..I’m proud Dogs director Susan Alberti shows members like me and the rest of the pack a different way

      http://www.susanalbertifoundation.org.au/

    • rob baird says:

      12:27pm | 15/04/10

      Wheres the poll asking if Jon Anderson should be sacked for his indescretions.

    • Harquebus says:

      01:00pm | 15/04/10

      Our national enthusiasm for deifying and excusing flawed sports stars is because most Aussies are morons.

    • Steve says:

      01:24pm | 15/04/10

      I was at the 06 grannie and screaming for a swab of Cousins in the last quarter

    • stephen says:

      01:42pm | 15/04/10

      It’s generally acknowledged by some very well-known ex-Premiership Coaches, that Ben Cousins should not have been given another chance.
      Were there not a host of youngters trying to get picked at last years’ draft ?

    • Greg says:

      02:13pm | 15/04/10

      Penbo seems to be on a publicity seeking exercise and it’s working unfortunately.  Cousins has a career.  The idea behind drug problem management is to allow him to continue his career, continue to give his life that purpose, whilst keeping him on the straight and narrow.  If he wasn’t at the club who would he hang out with?  Find me a bunch of Aussie blokes that don’t got out and drink to some extent?  That may not be ideal but it’s reality.

      And his admission of being an excessive person… so what?  Maybe he has recognised his true character the point is that he channels it appropriately.  Is Penbo a pyschoanalyst?

      But yes, as an Adelaide supporter now facing the reality that Neil Craig’s excellent coaching career may fade away without a flag, I have to wonder whether the West Coast sides that knocked us out in two preliminary finals, with a rampaging midfield including Kerr and Cousins that seemed to take the game to another level of intensity, were actually clean?  I guess innocent until proven guilty, which won’t happen unless someone writes a damning autobiography.

      Both losses meant that WC played Sydney in the GF, and at the time Adelaide was completely dominant over the Swans, in the middle of a run of 10 wins out of 11 games, including matches in Sydney.  All the stats suggested Adelaide would’ve cruised to GF wins over Sydney.  It could have been back-to-back and Craig lauded as a genius.  Now, with sustained finals year after year, Adelaide has no top draft picks in its team, no father-son selections (thanks to the AFL’s tweaking the rules) and it looks like the slide down the ladder has begun - penalised for 6 years of quality.  And of course people say it’s because Craig has been worked out by the opposition.

    • Paddy says:

      08:32am | 17/04/10

      you are kidding me Greg, It’s poeple like you that give the Crows a bad name. What’s your excuse for last year? Smashing collingwood then blaming the umpires. Time has passed you by and now you are clutching at excuses…..

    • The Civet says:

      04:10pm | 15/04/10

      Ah, the intellect of footy players!!?? Those blokes of tigerland. I can just see they’re all swotting up on their Phds, NOT!!!!

      Marbles anyone?

    • barry says:

      05:20pm | 15/04/10

      Way too harsh Penbo.
      Cousins is off the whizzer, so why cant he binge drink with his mates like every other AFL player?

    • Red says:

      08:01pm | 15/04/10

      it’s been speculated that, in the moments after the siren sounded in the 2006 grand final and the trophy was handed over, Cousins’ high-speed hand-pumping gesture in the middle of the MCG may have suggested that he was already under the influence of an illicit substance.
      “Many” people I know are saying this is an outrageous lie!
      A “source” in the AFL repeated that Cousins was regularly tested for drugs during 2006.
      “Everyone” knows that journalists make this stuff up and try to puff it up with a quote

    • Front says:

      07:53pm | 15/04/10

      Oh, for Christ’s sake David, grow up.  Just because you’re caught up in the whole tabloid thing, you and News Ltd do not own the people who kick a ball for a living and make a few bucks.
      What’s in your head these days, Dave?  How many times did we pull you out of the shit as a kid?

    • penbo says:

      03:46pm | 16/04/10

      You’re right Front. This entire piece is in a News Limited conspiracy

    • swannie ben says:

      10:08am | 17/04/10

      At least we seem to have moved beyong the BS that “everything we do for ben is what he needs for his recovery”. This nonsense has been trotted out to justufy him playing, not playing, talking to journos, not talking to journos, drinking, not drinking, blah blah - even making the dodgy rehab/comeback doco which no-one seems to want to buy was said to be part of his recovery.
      Let’s not get too worked up though - people are saying “punching someone is hardly appropriate behaviour” as if this means he should be removed. Sure it’s not ideal but it’s not the worst thing a footballer can do. I’ve slammed a mate against a wall to get him to behave on a buck’s night and he thanked me later. But I have never done anything of the sort Mick Malthouse thinks they get into down at St Kilda. I know which I would be more worried about as a club. So Penbo, even if he was around drinkers, Cousins wasn’t drunk. Sounds like he’s getting somewhere at least.
      Speaking of nonsense: Red says “A “source” in the AFL repeated that Cousins was regularly tested for drugs during 2006.” Sure thing mate.
      And it wasn’t just the fist pump in the 06 grand final - or even the crazed windmill he pulled once he got his hands on the trophy. It was the look on his face as he did it.

    • Bleeemo says:

      02:38pm | 24/06/10

      I’m not a sports fan, never have been. I am however very gratefull for it’s existance. It keeps all the idiots away from the places I like to hang out. AFL is the worst role model for any young person, anyone that says otherwise is biased and lying to themselves.

 

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