When Grace Arach was 12 she was kidnapped, raped, tortured, and forced to become the wife of one of Joseph Kony’s commanders. She escaped when she was 17. Since then she’s been working to help other child soldiers. Now she’s 25 and has been living in Australia for almost a year. Her family is still in Uganda.

The author was forced to marry this man's deputy. Image: AFP.

I was in a vehicle with five others, including a Catholic priest, when we were ambushed by the Lord’s Resistance Army. They stopped the vehicle and got us out. There were five men and me. I was a little girl, 12 years old. It was 1996.

We went to a centre where the soldiers looted food and some drinks, then the priest asked the commander that was leading the group that arrested us, he asked: “What about the little girl?”. He said: “I want to take her back to her mother”.

The answer he got was: “Have you ever seen blood flowing?”, meaning if the priest insisted they would kill me.

So we joined the gang and the war. I was made to be the wife of Kony’s deputy, Otti Lagony, and I met Kony when we went to Sudan in 1997.

Kony was a “nice guy” (he plays “good cop”). I didn’t say much when I met him, but Otti knew my Dad and told Kony whose daughter I was.

Kony wanted me to be his wife but Otti said I was already his wife because they have these rules – if one of the commanders had sex with another girl or woman, he is not allowed to be with someone else.

I was given to Otti as his wife when I was 12. I stayed with him for four years. But in December 1999, Kony ordered him to be killed with another commander because Otti was saying they should end the war – so Kony ordered him to be killed.

I stayed all that time because there were no options. There were 10 girls at Otti’s home. We walked, we carried food, we were bodyguards. They said this was how we should be trained. They just said this is the system, this is how things work. It wasn’t really easy but I had no options. If I had escaped I couldn’t go back, I would get lost or killed.

It was horrible, but you get used to it because you have nowhere to go.

Then in 2001 I was just tired of the whole system and I was sent to loot food and I was kind of sick… and I had this argument with the commander, he wanted me to carry three basins of sorghum and when we disagreed I said I’m tired of these stupid things, I want to go home.

People couldn’t believe it.
I told the other girls I was thinking of escaping and I said: ‘If I leave you behind you won’t escape”. They had children.

On the 19th of March I left.

I spent a month and a half in Khartoum under UNICEF and the UN, then in July I was taken to World Vision*. I started working for the local organisation, Children/Youth as Peacebuilders.

Then last year I came to Australia. In May I’ll have been in Australia for a year.

I’m happy now because I’m safe. But still, it is not just about me, it’s about others as well and other children are not safe.

I will go back to Uganda to visit. I will still live here but now I have permanent residency here I can go back. Sometimes I miss home. I miss home but there’s more peace of mind here than there.

It is good that now, because of Kony 2012, people all over the world know what Kony has done in Uganda, in Sudan and the Congo and the Central African Republic. It’s a good idea and it’s good that people know. Now people know who Kony is.

It might even be successful - but there are other issues. They have to address the root cause of the problem. Even if they capture Kony, it’s not just about him. He has a group of people under him. And how are they going to get him? There will be children there, children born in captivity. If they’re going to fight, how will they identify the kids?

I would like him to be brought to justice. But the inequalities in terms of wealth and power have to be addressed. The people are really poor. If they don’t address the core issue another conflict will arise.

But after 26 years of Kony’s actions, I wish them the best.

* World Vision has been working in conflict-affected areas of Northern Uganda for over 20 years. The agency’s Children of War Rehabilitation Centres in the Gulu and Pader districts of Uganda have been running since 1995.

The Gulu Children of War Rehabilitation Centre is a temporary home for former child soldiers. Staff members help children to recover from their experiences and reintegrate into their communities. The children receive counselling, food, shelter, and clothing. Since the centre opened in 1995, nearly 11,000 former abductees and their children have been helped through its services.

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    • Nathan says:

      05:13am | 13/03/12

      Finally an opinion on the issue that actually counts. I am more than happy to listen to the opinions of people from Uganda or still have a connection to the country, how ever I am sick of well meaning westerners telling me what needs to be done.

    • Kate says:

      07:33am | 13/03/12

      Well said, Nathan.

    • fml says:

      07:35am | 13/03/12

      You know that empathy is the trait of a rational human being. There are many examples where using empathy or at the very least basic deduction can figure out what is right and wrong.

      For example i have never been stabbed, but i can deduce using empathy and basic deduction that it would not be pleasant, also, I have not been in Uganda, but i can use basic deduction and show empathy towards that have been there.

      I would rather 1 well meaning westerner over 1 million apathetic detractors any day.

    • Peter says:

      09:03am | 13/03/12

      So, Nathan, now that you’ve read the opinion of someone that “counts”, what are you going to do about it?

      Thought so.

    • Money where it counts says:

      09:49am | 13/03/12

      Gosh, maybe he’ll buy a wrist band?

      ... one where the profit goes the Gulu Rehab Centre that’s actually doing something to help. As opposed to some western feel good group who just make movies.

    • haggis says:

      09:51am | 13/03/12

      @Peter . . . for anyone who genuinely wants to know what can be done, check out the work of West Australian woman Dee Potts, who has put her own money into her project in Uganda . . . . . .

      http://www.ugandanpearls.com

    • Peter says:

      12:06pm | 13/03/12

      I just can’t underwstand why someone would take the time to undermine other people’s efforts to do something when they are probably not doing anything about it themselves, nor are they intending to do anything.

      And isn’t it ironic that they obviously think their online comment means something when, after all, the very root of their criticism is that social media is a worthless tool.

    • DOB says:

      03:01pm | 13/03/12

      Uh, Nathan, so you wont listen to a “well meaning westerner” even when that westerner is merely relaying to you exactly what people like Grace Arach - whom you dont know and havent met - have told that westerner? Its like a 1930s person saying “Ive been told Nazi Germany was bad but I wont know what should be done about it until I hear from a jewish victim”. You dont make any sense - but you obviously have armed yourself with a handy rationale to bury your head in the sand and not care much about most things.  Its a good thing you matter as little as you care.

    • Greg says:

      06:11pm | 13/03/12

      Being a victim doesn’t make your opinion any better, especially when you use that victimhood to blackmail other countries into providing asylum when it isn’t needed.

      The facts relevant to this story are:

      LRA members think that Kony is a “nice guy”.
      People can “escape” from Kony just by saying “I want to go home”.
      Kony isn’t even in Uganda, and no Ugandan is in danger from Kony.
      If there was any danger, why would any genuine refugee want to go back?

      This is just another permanent residency scammer, as has been proven from her own words.

      Everything I have said above is self evident and true. That’s why any responses that I get will be restricted to ad hominem attacks.

    • Nathan says:

      02:24am | 14/03/12

      To those who questioned what i am doing i will tell you, absolutely nothing because the time for action has passed. Its as simple as that nothing can write the wrongs and going over him increases the chances of more heart ache.

      I will undermine the efforts of the “doco” because it was based on miss information and presented a threat that realistically does not exist at this point in time.

      What the clip did show effectively is how the people can spread the message and they did that affectively, its then down to us to asses and make our own opinions. So yes i am a detractor of this cause but not the concept in general. It was affective cause i like many others took the time to read up and make my opinion based on that.

      Showing empathy would be allowing the affected to get on with their lives without the white man deciding what is best.

    • Emma says:

      05:57am | 13/03/12

      This piece seems so heartbreaking to me because she doesnt even seem angry or emotional or anything at all. Just numb. I guess that is what you need to survive.

      I understand you want to support others that suffer as well but please think of yourself as well and spend time doing what makes yourself happy.

    • Slick says:

      09:20am | 13/03/12

      I got that as well Emma, I mean in there she states “I stayed all that time because there were no options” &“It was horrible, but you get used to it because you have nowhere to go” she doesnt seem outraged at what happened, she just accepts that that is what happened to her.
      I do like the fact that she has stated it won’t end with Kony, and what about the people who have been brainwashed from a young age, or born into the LRA.

      Grace, Thankyou for sharing your story and I hope you manage to help many more young women and children who have been hurt the way you were. I also hope that the peace & safety in Australia will help you to heal.

    • Kate says:

      11:22am | 13/03/12

      Have either of you been to Africa? This IS life in these parts of the world. It’s horrific, but it’s also not atypical.

    • Barry says:

      11:58am | 13/03/12

      Also if you watch the older videos produced by InvisibleChildren, there is footage where one of the Ugandan children state that if you cried, they would assume you were thinking of home and possible escaping, and therefore kill you.  I’m thinking this kind of emotional suppression would no doubt have life long lasting effects.

    • Xander says:

      07:01am | 13/03/12

      The catch with killling Kony, is that innocent victims like Grace Arach, will also die.

    • Amac says:

      07:12am | 13/03/12

      Thank you Grace for sharing your heartbreaking story.  I thank you that you will help those, who have rudely refused to take this seriously, to begin to understand.
       I am very happy that you have found peace in Australia. Your parents have named you well.

    • Emma says:

      07:38am | 13/03/12

      12 years… just imagine that. My niece is 12 years old…

    • Fiona says:

      08:52am | 13/03/12

      Emma, I thought of one of my girls who will be 12 this year. It’s sickening.

    • josh says:

      11:57am | 13/03/12

      Australia shouldn’t be some new paradise for people escaping the world’s problems or else we bring those problems here.

    • Emma says:

      12:23pm | 13/03/12

      Josh

      Shame on you for making this an immigration matter. This woman shares her story with us and all you can think of is “another migrant”.

    • Steve says:

      12:55pm | 13/03/12

      It’s ok Josh - we are not a paradise, it sounds like we have our own problems with dipsh!ts like you here.

      I’d much rather have people in our country with the empathy and strength of character of Grace than the selfish stupidity you displayed with that comment.

    • Deano says:

      08:14am | 13/03/12

      A Genuine refugee, who will have a positive impact. What would the bleeding hearts want you to believe about the economic refuges jumping on boats and taking the positions of people with similar stories, who i have no doubt dont have $10,000 to line the pockets of smugglers.

    • jade (the other one) says:

      10:34am | 13/03/12

      @Deano what a way to ignore the point of this woman’s story.

      Furthermore, you have no way of knowing whether she is genuine or not. How do you know she is who she says she is? I seem to recall two Burmese men who claimed that they were students who had been tortured by the military junta, and who had received asylum “the proper way” here in Australia. It was later found that they were responsible for the torture and murder of over 100 people each as members of the junta they claimed they were running from.

      Furthermore, most of the people in African refugee camps get out only because they have the money to get their name on the right list. They get food only because they have something to trade. The aid agencies don’t run the camps.

    • Greg says:

      06:00pm | 13/03/12

      Deano, how can she be a “genuine refugee” when she was not in any danger, given that Kony isn’t even in Uganda?

      How dangerous is Kony anyway, if people can leave just be saying “I want to go home”?

      How can she be worried about being persecuted in her home country when she is so willing to go back there, “now that she has permanent residency”.

      Why should the Australian social security system be burdoned by tens of thousands of asylum seekers, just because some Africans are nasty to other Africans?

      How does it benefit Australia to import these ongoing conflicts from all over the world?

    • NESLIHAN KUROSAWA says:

      08:20am | 13/03/12

      Hi Grace,

      I have personally found your story for survival, very remarkable and special to say the least!  You have most definitely touched our lives more than you could ever imagine and hopefully thought us a little bit about your culture as well as your background.  I am guessing that you are one of the fortunate ones to survive it all and having the chance to share your personal experiences with the rest of the world.

      In my personal opinion, we can never underestimate the power of human resilience and personal strength, when we least expect to find it and in the most unlikely places such as Uganda. Now more than ever, we have to understand and appreciate the reasons for the need to protect the most vulnerable human beings on our planet, our children!  Kind regards to your editors.

    • Channelling Erick says:

      08:34am | 13/03/12

      Yeah, yeah, but what about the bad things that happened to the boys?

    • Em says:

      12:19pm | 13/03/12

      They’re captured, beaten into submission, threatened, kill their own families for the pleasure of Kony’s regime… They aren’t forgotten. This is just one kid, who happens to be female, who happened to escape.

      DEAL WITH IT.

    • Anna says:

      02:06pm | 13/03/12

      Look at the user name, Em! wink

    • subotic says:

      08:46am | 13/03/12

      At 42, I was forced to buy into the “Stop the Kony’s army” social media movement due to the total saturation of the topic via every type of media possible.

      Like Grace states - “Even if they capture Kony, it’s not just about him.”

      So far, just so many problems, no real solutions…..

    • Boo says:

      12:57pm | 13/03/12

      The whole point of KONY 2012 was to make people AWARE of him.

      So job done. 

      And no one forced you to buy into anything.

    • Cynicised says:

      08:47am | 13/03/12

      I find your story very moving Grace, thank you for sharing it with us. You show us the situation in Uganda in a starkly clear picture. If Kony is captured by violence the innocent will be caught in the crossfire. And if he’s deposed another despot will step into the breach unless the inequalities in Ugandan society are addressed
      We in our comfortable, safe country can hardly fathom what has befallen you at such a tender age. Yet your humanity shines through and you are a true survivor. I hope you find happiness and peace here. I also hope that the publicity about your homeland helps to find the path to freedom for your countrymen.

      Best wishes.

    • nane says:

      11:01am | 13/03/12

      So many people have negative comments on Kony2012. If not for this “bombardment” over the last few days, Grace’s letter would never have been published. Yes it may seem like a money making scheme or another annoyance, but the truth is that Jason Russel, through his video, managed to create awareness for the people who suffered and are still suffering. How can one click help? One click soon turned into millions and the power to force action from governments all over the world came from everyone who clicked and shared the link. I don’t believe Kony 2012 have all the right solutions, because the problems in Africa are too complex and will require careful consideration. However, joint actions of world governments can ensure that innocent men, woman and children do not suffer more. This campaign DID lead to people becoming aware of this issue. Two weeks ago, most people were still blissfully unaware. I sincerely hope through the power of social media more perpetuators of human rights violations will be named, leading to actions that would never have happened with out creating global awareness. One click may seem inadequate to some, but don’t tell me millions of shares will not make a difference.
      Thanks for sharing your story Grace and I am so grateful that you had the opportunity to tell your story firsthand to millions of readers. Thanks Kony-2012

    • pesimistic says:

      11:02am | 13/03/12

      what a disgusting wrotten world. I don’t even know what to do really. The older i get the more reclusive I get to avoid horrible people.

    • Tam says:

      11:16am | 13/03/12

      I’m just wondering what will happen to the abducted children if/when they do find Kony - these kids have been brain washed to kill, so does that mean that in order to get/kill Kony, they will have to kill these child soldiers?  I know in a war situation, its kill or be killed - I hope that the hunters have thought this through too…  Such a sad world we live in…

    • Traxster says:

      11:26am | 13/03/12

      Good luck in the future Grace
      and may your God bless you
      and watch over you.

    • nicholas says:

      12:40pm | 13/03/12

      yes traxster, god did a top notch job of watching over her so far hasn’t he.

    • Emma says:

      01:44pm | 13/03/12

      Nicholas -

      Way to put a negative slant on someone’s kind-hearted and caring comment.

      Totally unnecessary.

    • Jim says:

      12:25pm | 13/03/12

      If Grace was 12 in 1996 she would be 28 in 2012, not 25 as the introduction states.

    • Doxastic says:

      01:45pm | 13/03/12

      That’s probably because it’s a recycled story that she’s having trouble keeping straight.

      She is also is full of praise for World Vision (TM) but forgets to mention that she has been employed by them for several years.

    • Emma says:

      02:00pm | 13/03/12

      Looks more to me like the introduction was written by somebody else - and they stuffed up. Not quantum physics - and a relatively straight-forward explanation that Doxastic probably won’t like.

    • Mzungu King says:

      03:04pm | 13/03/12

      Grace is a friend of mine. She was born on April 3, 1986 and abducted on March 22, 1996- almost 11 years old. Soon she will be turning 26. There are no holes in the story just an incorrect age.

    • Rob says:

      03:58pm | 13/03/12

      There’s also the fact that in many of these situation even if documentation of birth and other important events once existed they almost never survive the separation of the child from their place of birth. This means often these people have no accurate way to know their age or exactly how old they were when particular events such as their abduction occurred.

    • Rebecca says:

      12:59pm | 13/03/12

      Thank you for sharing your story. You must be very brave to share this experience. God bless you

    • ace leo ace says:

      01:01pm | 13/03/12

      Thank you for sharing.

      Its stories like these that make the dehumanising of the asylum seeker debate in Australia so frustrating.

      How many brave souls such as Grace have languished in mandatory detention?

    • Cath says:

      01:13pm | 13/03/12

      Grace, thank you for sharing your story with us. I appreciate your time and respect your dignity in doing so.

    • Lucy says:

      07:44pm | 13/03/12

      Thank you, Grace, for your courage, dignity and grace in reliving & sharing your story - so that we may gain a little more insight into something that we, as a large community across the globe, are struggling to understand and know how to deal with.
      I deeply hope that you continue to heal and find peace, and that you get to see some of the changes you hope for.
      Many thanks,
      Lucy

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